She is 14, her sister is 12. They were supposed to stay at his Friday night, but when we got there he had gone out. DD2 phoned him and he said he wasn't coming home, so I brought them both back home again. Saturday morning he rang my mobile, but I was downstairs and didn't run up to answer it. I wouldn't have answered it if I'd seen his number on the display anyway. He left a message, apologised for his mistake Friday night and said he'd be round to pick the girls up in 20 mins, and could I ring him myself in future instead of getting DD2 to do so, so that any future mix-ups could be resolved (WTF? It wouldn't have mattered who phoned him, he still wouldn't have been home! I had only gone out to drop them off and didn't even have my phone with me.)
So he turned up, DD2 went off with him and told him that I was taking DD1 to the doctor and would bring her later. He text me later and said could she be at his by 6pm as he was taking them to dinner and a movie, I replied ok. I took DD1 to the hospital and we discovered her sore finger was actually broken, so we were there about 2.5 hours. We then did a little clothes shopping for her before dropping her at dad's just before 6pm.
DD2 has sports coaching 2 mins from my house at 10am this morning. We had talked about DD1 coming home then so we could go clothes shopping, but as we had already done that I was not expecting her to come until later. ExH dropped DD2 at sports, then DD1 was back at 10.10 along with her bags and her sister's stuff too. DD1 in tears, came running up to my bedroom and threw herself at me. ExH has had a go at her for wanting to come back so soon. My partner was staying here with his DD, who was visiting for the first time, and he was leaving at 10.30 to take her back home. DD1 explained that she was not just coming back to see them, but also had lots of things to do to be ready for school tomorrow. ExH then made several unpleasant remarks about DP, which seemed to be fuelled by jealousy, told DD1 that I had lied to him about just being boyfriend/girlfriend. DP does not live here, which is what exH has been told repeatedly, and is what I declared on my Form E.
ExH was determined to make DD1 feel bad about spending time with DP and his daughter. DD1 told me that she always feels like she has to prove to her dad that she loves him. Both DDs spend a lot of time with him, they see him every week and alternate weekends, they go on holiday with him. They do love him, even though he doesn't make it easy.
I think he is also jealous because she is doing her work experience in the company where DP works, and because DP took her to a concert (just the two of them, since DD2 and I don't like the band particularly anyway).
I cannot think of anything I could say to exH, although several swear words spring to my mind. He ruined their xmas by telling them he had to sell his house (the former marital home) because I wanted more money. The court decided he did need to give me more money, and this has been achieved without him having to sell the house, which I always knew it would be.
I have told DD1 that dad does love her, he's just not very good at showing it at times. She asked me what the arrangement is for next weekend, and I think she is worried about spending time with him. He did apologise for upsetting her this morning, which is something, I suppose.
Sorry this has got so long...I am not sure I can do anything about this other than what I already have done. It just breaks my heart when he makes my girls cry.