Not sure if this has ever been discussed embarrasing

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I can,t believe I am talking about this on here and am cringing as I type this.
However sex with my dp is so frustrating and he sometimes has trouble doing it without it hurting him. His forskin will be pulled right back tight around his penis making it very painful it doesn,t matter what we try but his penis will sometimes not do what its got to do and I will end up feeling angry dissatiisfied.
If he does manage to perform I cannot feel a thing and get nothing out of it we have not had sex for about 6 months now as I just cannot be bothered when I get nothing out of it.
I have never heard of couples having problems like this before I have wondered if he has a tight foreskin or something or if he is small or if there is a problem with me.
sorry but I need advice

So did you ever have satisfying sex? He has a very small penis that hurts when he has an erection and he can rarely perform. Sorry to be blunt but that's not a great start for a sexual relationship what made you carry on.

I wuld gentle tell him how you feel and suggest seeing a doctor, it isn't right that it is sore for him and not enjoyable for you.

It can be sorted.

he refuses to see a doctor he would have to be dying first. sex has always being like this.

you can go to the doctor and ask for advice yourself - or a sexual counsellor? as to the size, can't you tell whether he's unusually small?

It sounds as if his foreskin is too tight. He does need to see his GP, but steroid creams can sometimes sort this out without the need to recourse to surgery.

This will not sort itself out.

This is called Phimosis and is a fairly common problem and one your GP will have have dealt with before. It requires either steroid cream treatment or a minor op or possibly circumcision. It can start to affect urinary issues, so needs seeing for that factor alone. If his foreskin cannot retract properly, he will not be able to achieve a full erection, so his penis might actually be average when erect, but it will be impossible to tell whilst this issue affects him.

If he won't see a DR then you have to ask if a sexless relationship with a man too stubborn and uncaring about your needs to see a GP, is the right one for you.

what OB said

He has got to go to his gp.

DH had to have a circumcision due to this and it will only get worse if he leaves it. It's a relatively straightforward process and he must be in terrible pain.

Once he gets that sorted you can work on technique - its likely to be hurting him every time at the moment so he's probably not properly putting his back into it iykwim?

Dump him and get a guy who's cock works properly. Applied darwinism.

Is it worth you doing a little research yourself on the subject of Phimosis? You could talk to your doctor and ask for information.

It is quite possible that your DP is terrified that a visit to the doctor is going to involve something really painful and ghastly hence his unwillingness to go.

Would it be possible to talk with your doctor and act as a kind of intermediary so that you can explain to your DP what the doctor will do in the first instance?

The tightness can be fixable however the size can not. However, if he sorts the tightness out then he can work on technique/positions so that you have satisfaction.
Have you had a previous partner to compare to? An average guys penis should "fit" you comfortably and you should definitely feel it. (perhaps with the exception of having 8 DC lol) but maybe if you work on your tightness im sorry for being too graphic you can find a solution together.

Sounds like he needs to be circumcised to me.

yes as previously said he urgently needs to go to the doctor, and I think he may have a circumcision done, and actually he should have had it done when he was a teenager!!!

Also, forgot to add, If he has a tight foreskin then it will balloon when he has a pee. I don't know in all cases but one of my sons had this problem when he was young and his foreskin blew up like a pudding. Maybe ask him.

I don't think he is dumping quality just yet

he is waaaay out of order to not go the doc's though

what a big bloody baby ! < sheesh >

Yes this is phimosis and he will need to be circumcised. If he doesn't want to be circumcised, he can stretch his foreskin by himself. Skin can stretch ask any of us!

Tell him to pull his foreskin back very gently (no tearing) as many times a day he can. It will eventually stretch.

Are you two close enough that he allows you to play with his penis? Check it for scars (in the foreskin). If there are scars he will have to have a circumcision.

DP had this before we met, said it made sex stupidly uncomfortable and had a circumcision which totally sorted it.
He reckons he gained an extra inch once it was done too, as everything had been so confined previously, iyswim. Win win situation all round imo..