So how do i stop caring?

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I'm convinced that my H has cheated, so many things that point that way but I'm so tired of arguing. I have a 9 week old baby and I just don't have the energy to fight. As stupid as it sounds, I just want to not care anymore. So that I have time to sort things out without it eating away at me. I don't want to cry about him. I just want to feel nothing.

I'm sorry you're having a tough time. You're probably in survival mode for you baby. I agree with you, block out what's happening with your partner and focus on enjoying your baby, until you feel stronger. It will wait. Also, remember, it may not be true that he's cheating on you. Talk to him openly when you feel strong enough. Don't let this overshadow your precious time with your baby. If you need extra support, please ask family and friends or HV and doctor or keep posting here. Your baby is your priority right now. Sorry if my post isn't helpful. I just don't think many women could cope with a newborn and serious relationship discussions. Look after yourself first and foremost and your baby.

I don't know what to say to help you, I'm crap at things like this but I just want to give hugs and I hope everything works out okay for you and your baby x

I mean this with the absolute kindest intentions, lovey, i don't think you sound very well - have you considered you might have PND? I am in no way dismissing your suspicions, but its the wanting to feel nothing that is a big red flag to me. Would you consider talking to your HV or GP? Do you have any family you can talk to?

Thanks, I realise that sounded really desperate but what I meant was I want to feel nothing for him. I don't have the energy or the want to fight for him and I don't want the roller coaster of emotions that I know are headed my way.

I will write more when he isn't sitting next to me. Offs why are they so attentive when they know you know?

Firstly, thanks for the replies. Its nice to just get these things out of your head sometimes.

Secondly, I now know its true so I wasn't going mad as he suggested :(

That's it, just thanks x

Care about yourself and your baby. Put yourself #1 priority and focus all your energy on making your and your baby's lives good ones. Get yourself some real life support from friends or family and ask him to leave so that you aren't bothered with his presence. Having looked my own DS from birth without the complication of a partner (let alone a bad partner) I can tell you that it is not as difficult as it sounds.

I'm sorry that it's true... Thinking of you, please don't let his behaviour overshadow this precious time with your bubbs

oh dear, are you ok, love ?

what have you found out ?

keep posting for support if you think it will help you x