I have a new step brother which I'm quite excited about

[VivaLeBeaver]

dunno why I'm posting this but feel I want to get it off my chest and it's all a bit weird.

My dad has married his fiancee. She has a son from a previous relationship, he's 20. I'm happy about this, happy to have a new "brother", always wanted siblings, etc. The weddi g yesterday was the first time I've met him in the 8 years my dad has been with his mum.

I would love to have some sort of relationship with him, get to know him, etc. Which is stupid really isn't it? He's just some random youth who I have nothing in common with. Anyway the problem is, I don't think he feels the same as I do at all. No reason why he should. There is a family gathering today and I suspect after this afternoon I'll not see him again. Which I'm sad about.

Some of us have 'real' brothers that we have nothing in common and don't spend a lot of time with. :) Keep your expectations as real as any other acquaintance or you'll frighten him off.

Good point about how not even real siblings might be that close. I think I have some romantic image of it being like the tv show Brothers and Sisters.

Nah.... You know what they say. You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family. So approach him as a potential new friend. You never know, get chatting to him at the party and you may 'click' enough to see each other another time.

I have a step sister. She is not my sister! She is however a good friend. I do not view her as a sibling any more than she views me as one.

On the other hand, I also have a cousin who married her step brother which is a bit ikky as they were brought up together.

Well, congrats to your dad although I have to say I find it slightly weird that you didn't meet his wife's son until the day of the wedding. After 8 years? So the boy was 12 when they first got together?

Why don't you friend him on Facebook? That's what 20 year olds do :)

It is a bit odd we didn't meet before. But my dad has only recently moved in with his girlfriend so its not like I've been round her house lots before and when I have he's been out.

Mmmm, I'll have to find out his surname before I can facebook him. Its not the same as her maiden name.