Adultery

[welshboris]

When you've been cheated on and a realtionship has ended as a result, in the next realtionship how do you stop torturing yourself that your new partner will do the same?

If you're confident in every other aspect of your life, but cant shake the hurt you felt before?

Can it be done?

hello love. it must be hard to trust again..

Hiya chick, yeah just having a serious moment (doesnt happen often) and thinking aloud)
Things are cool with my new partner, but I wonder if I will always have that doubt?

I cant shake it, no matter how hard I try

dh was cheated on aswell so we are both very wary of eachother in only that aspect of our lives

trust eachother completely etc but it is always in the back of your mind

wish it would go away tbh

i'm sure it will pass. you just have to wait til you feel confident to let go. you are allowed to be human boris me old mucker

Yeah my new partners ex told him she was on pill and then fell pregnant when they split up. I know its both peoples fault to use contreception, so he was a fool too

But now he is very cautious about contrecepation, so I suppose everyone has their worries and faults

you ok boris

i know. i was a little naughty about 9 years ago, i was 20 and me and dp had grown apart. we got together when I was 17. I didn't sleep with anyone, just a stupid drunken kiss, but I still feel guilty now (dp is now dh) i just worry that he''l do the same to me and i'll have to forgive him cos he forgave me

yeah Im cool, just thinking

My old head on young shoulders is one of my downfalls.

Maybe I should sh@g round like all the other girls my age

no. you have more brains and self respect. I never did that and don't feel like i've missed out

glad u r ok

yeah, now stop whining and start bitching

SORRY for hijack - doormat how did you get on with mirena ??? and my dh cheated on me several times but not technically with another woman but porn behind my back and i hated it tbh i still check history on his laptop dont know how i would feel if he actually had affair, dont envy either of you,

Am same as doormat, me and dh both had cheating exes. Find trust easy most of the time but do find it difficult if he goes on stag do's and boys nights out.

ironically my soon-to-be ex H was cheated on b4 he got together, as was I....we had known each other for years but that was the first time we were both single at same time AND understood how the other felt....

now H has done it to me so I feel like I will NEVER trust anyone again

I think about trust all the time. I guess it has to be what you work out between you because I'd hate to think all our lives are so tabloid.

I read that footballer's wives were not so worried about the infidelity but whether the 'players' (good word) had been safe. apparently they had been expecting this to happen. is this the way the world is going?

I've just written on here in another blog about a specific site for cheating called Ashley Madison. apparently they tried to name an airport after their company. how much money must these people be making from broken homes to be able to do this? its scandalous to think that adultery has been elevated to respectable business.

Both my partner and myself were cheated on in previous relationships and as Doormat said, we're both wary of each other. When that is the case, do you think being completely honest and open about past relationships would help?

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