Oh god this hurts

[frowniefuckingface]

Me and 'd'p have been together for three and a bit years.

We have been going wrong for the past four months or so.

It has gotten to the point that we no longer talk, we no longer have sex, we just don't communicate.

It is the lack of communication that has killed us, I find it so difficult to talk about our relationship and what is wrong, that I just cry and I know that 'd'p is sick of me crying. But I just cant seem to find the words to articulate how I feel.

I'm just sad and I know I am to blame eurgh

Why do you think you're to blame?
Have you considered counselling?
Sorry you're going through this

Is he a nice enough bloke? Is it worth saving?

Just lost a post :( will be back soon

Firstly (trying not to sound harsh) I would get fed if dh kept crying and wouldn't talk. You recognise that's a problem. So you need to think of ways to fix that. Why don't you look into counselling either alone or as a couple or both.
But the question is as pp says is it worth saving?

No, no counselling, Just that we have stopped talking. I do not want to be accused of drip feeding but he broke his back as a teenager and taught himself how to walk, he tells me now that his back hurts however he can mow a lawn, he can crawl around with the dogs on the floor... but he cant sleep in the same bed as me?

What has been going wrong?
Can you work out why you don't talk? If you know what & why, then perhaps you can fix it.

And so I look like a dick... I can never see the right time to talk, there is always something in the way...

tbf my dad has a serious back problem. He can do most things but sleeping is the worst time. He has slept on the floor many times. Because its better on his back. He sometimes sleeps in another room from mum as to not disturb her. Is that what is bothering you?

I CANNOT TALK ABOUT ANYTHING, EVER EVER, EVER, EVER!

When you say no counselling, do you mean you haven't had it or won't consider it?

Tits, I look like a dick

Frownie when you're in this kind of rut with communication counselling really is the only way to get back on track

Do you want it to work?

Well how can I consider Councilloring
when I feel like a tit...

Sorry, I should add that's in my experience re the counselling.

Do you want to make changes and make your relationship work or not? Sorry to be blunt but it doesn't seem like you do. Counselling will help you stop feeling like a tit. Or should do. It will help you communicate. Is that what you want?

I think I want it to work, eurgh to raw... hurt to raw

You're anonymous on here.
If you can't talk, then write. We won't bite.

Well you need to decide. As amazingly wonderful knees are they can't wave a wand and fix it. Once you have decided then you need to think about how you can fix it.

Wtf that should say as amazingly wonderful mners are. Not knees. Damn auto correct. See we are all bad at communicating sometimes. :)

Thank you everyone, I had way too much vino last night and alas I posted like a petulant child sorry guys.

Knees are wonderful though Dprince. And mners are too.

Well it looks as though we need to have the talk, as neither of us can carry on the way we are.