Hmmmm

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Husbabd has gone away for another is becOming very frequent work networking thing.

For the first time EVER since I have known him (18 years) he has packed his own case!

We haven't had a "bedroom scene" for something like I've lost count now years. I half eclectic him to be having an affair - I gave no proof - but just that niggling doubt thing going on.

I miss him bedroom activity by fear we have gone beyond recovery.

Just feel sad. I thi k it's the "packed own case/has never done that" thats saddened me - but I wouldn't be surprised .........

And predictive text says I can't spell !

I suppose you should trust your instincts.

I wouldn't dream of ever packing my dh's case so I don't get that part of you reasoning (although I do get that it is unusual).

How do you feel about it all?

I've always done that - fell for the helpless soulfull puppydOg eyes _ but this is very out of character !

I think if I put it into context of how our relationship is - platonic but would dearly love to shag him - but there is always a back story/life story. Just trying to figure out now how I feel .....

It's funny you suspect him of being up to no good but want to shag him - I couldn't even think of doing it when I suspected anything.

Imperial - I just " miss him" and how we were.

But he does have history - his first marriage ended / he had an affair - I wouldn't want to walk in those shoes and no it wasn't with me but u picked up the later stage aftermath - horrid.

So what do you want? Apart from to shag him and for him not to be unfaithful.

I'm out of my depth with regards to advice.

So he's been unfaithful with his previous wife and he's not having sex with you. Now he's started to pack his own bags.

Hmmm.

Do you have access to his phone or email?

Yama - does "anyone" really want their OH to be unfaithful? No! I miss him and how we used to be. Nothing wrong with that - but I am pragmatic ....

I have to say that I love him dearly / have always supported him regards the shyte life throws etc ...... But I'm not stupid

Yeah, I guess nobody wants to be cheated on. Like I said I'm out my depth.

Your good listening to your gut instincts, go with that and i hope it is not what you think it is and it works out for you.

I used to know someone who had worked briefly as an "escort". Most of the clients were in their 40's and 50's and most claimed their wives had "gone off sex". She told me she used to ask them do you why? dId you talk to her and they would always say "no" or "I assumed it was women's private business" or "I couldn't do that, my wife is a lady/respectable/decent etc

So I think perhaps your H assumes you are no longer interested (and now you are worried he is looking elsewhere)So you HAVE to talk to him. Tell him you would like to have sex again, suggest seeing a relationship counsellor who specialises in it (Relate have them) and see what he says.