never see him, never see his family......feels like a business arangement

[lostlilly]

feeling fed up, we both work shifts, his one weekend a month off is his contact weekend so he goes away, always doing things alone because he is not around due to work or his family commitments........whats the point

There's no point being in a partnership if you're always on your own. Priorities have gone wrong if work and other commitments take precedent. You are his family and should be top of the pile. Time to talk, therefore.

What are the family commitments? Is he popping off to see his parents or siblings or is he visiting his DC. Yes you should be the top of the pile over most of his family but not his DC as they are his family. Perhaps the logistics of your jobs mean this relationship will not work.

In this early days my DH and I hardly saw each other because of work and child commitments. We have been married nearly 15 years now. I could have walked away and said too much baggage but we built a lovely relationship and I am nanny to 8 wonderful DGD with one on the way. You have to decide what is important to you.