Name changed for this because I feel such a fool. Long story short, male 'friend' of several years standing, got divorced same time as me (5 years ago) - we only see each other two or three times a year due to distance but exchange numerous texts which have become more flirty and suggestive. We have never gone more than a month without texting in the last 2 years, and each time we meet up (work) we just click together like old friends. Nothing other than hugging has ever gone on and I suppose I just thought we'd get together eventually. I have not had a proper relationship since my divorce due to DCs and at New Year when I received several 'miss you' texts from 'him' followed by two work meetings and practical daily texts since, I hoped a relationship would be imminent. So. Of course dear MN's, you know what's coming next. We finally meet up. He says to me, I can't give you what you want, I am in a stagnant relationship, only together for our DC' (of this I had no clue). I was gobsmacked to say the least, and the hurt and pain I felt then was nothing compared to now, a few weeks down the line, when we met again, and I made it clear to him that I am not interested in taking another woman's man, no matter how unhappy his circumstances. I foolishly allowed him to kiss me (mmm, was v v nice though) and we parted. I have since done some very easy FB stalking, only to discover that he is, in fact, contrary to what he told me, married, and probably only within the last 2 years, which is more or less when our texting began. End of rant.