exh and kids

[ASillyPhaseIAmGoingThrough]

Exh is emotionally abusive, a negative force a liar and unreliable. He hasn't seen kids in years, has gone on to have a child.

We are moving, morally and legally do I have to tell him where, or kids school? He said in court he never wanted to see kids again.

I wouldn't.
Don't rattle his cage if that makes sense. He was abusive and you don't know what he might do if he thinks you are moving in terms of making your life very difficult.

If you feel you have to, tell him when you are all settled x

He knows a move will happen, he won't know where to. I had my fingers crossed I would be told I didn't have to tell. I am planning on not telling anyone where we move to, I am cutting contact with people I can't trust to talk.

As long as you don't move them out of the country. There's no court order, he doesn't have any contact with them and doesn't have any prohibative steps orders that prevent you moving.

Your plan sounds good to me. Keep it super quiet and once you are there only tell those really close to you who you can trust.

Goodluck x

Thanks. To be honnest from the look of the fb pictures and him leaving me alone I think he is now focusing his abuse on his second wife, she didn't think I was telling the truth and she was ow, so its just the baby I feel sorry for. I am just glad to be free of him.

I don't see that you have a moral or legal obligation to tell your ex anything you don't want to share with him.

Does he pay maintenance for your dc?

If he has PR he can use a find and locate order to track you down via benefits payments etc. Hopefully he won't bother doing this.

Would I know if he did that trace?