my dd and her fella !!!

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i have a dd1 whos 20 ,she has ds1 whos 2,due her dd in july ,well had a fall out last week over something and nothing ,and her fella went to far calling me nasty names etc ,ive also been seeing a new fella for 11 weeks, wich is going good so far ,but they have been causeing problems for me, calling my new fella a peado etc ive not been happy were i am for ages so my new fella found me a 2 bed house not far from him ,ive been thinking about going for it but my dd has been saying in choosing my new fella over her ,plus she lives too close to me what to i do help !!

Why on earth would they call him a paedo? That's vile. It all sounds very confusing and messed up, to be honest. I wouldn't be moving anywhere for someone id only been with for a matter of weeks.

Sorry, but.... really?

It all seems a bit of a mess but I agree I wouldnt move near him after only 11 weeks. That sounds mad.

I don't even know where to begin with this...

She's 20 and has two children and won't let you move in with your boyfriend but she will let her bf shout at you?

I couldn't deal with all that confrontation, you make it sound like your whole life is one big row. Something has to give here. She is feeling vulnerable and needy and dealing with this by attacking you and it sounds like you are rising to it. Maybe she needs some reassurance but you cannot allow her to dictate your life, nor would it be good to actually run away from her. You need to step up and deal with it.

What has caused it? Did she have kids too young/with the wrong person?

fella

no im not moving in with him but my dd takes the piss all the time so does her fella my dcs have both got kids but its only my dd thats making trouble now ,she says i dont love her ... yeah right when i brought her up by myself ,also i hate the area were i live now

Surely you are the adult / older / wiser person here so tell her partner not to speak to you like that.
Don't move to be near your partner until you are more established in the relationship.
Move to a new area for the right reasons and in your own timescale if you are not happy where you are.
Your daughter is an adult, time she acted like one.
Please do not use the word fella. It makes me bristle...

If she is vulnerable and insecure moving away to get away from her won't help. What is the actual problem?

What are you fighting about and why are the fights so out of control?

This is giving me brain ache just reading it. Sounds like a lot of angst all round.

If you hate your area, move.

Weird!! It's your life OP but what reason do they have to call your new DP a paedo??? Something like that is certainly no joke and mud often sticks no matter if it's the truth or not.
Also can you clarify that because you now live close to DD- do you help her with the kids a lot? if yes it could be a selfish reason she objects to your move.
Agree 11 weeks is no time to decide to move for the sake of someone else have you thought about if things go tits up in the future? how will you feel being close to him?
Your DD and partner sound quite immature to be fair, why does she not want you to be happy or respect your choices and decisions.