I only found MN when my stbx had departed already. If I had found it in the 3 years of miserable marriage that lead up to me finding out about his double life I would have been free of the misery a lot sooner.
Reading the relationship threads has helped me so much. The great and knowledgeable posters often talk about the "scrip"t that cheating men follow once they have left. It takes a lot of reading of threads to piece this together.
I've just read on MrsGorgeous's thread about the cheater going off to live with the OW, in presumably lustful bliss but then appearing dishevelled and looking ill as following the "script".
It would be great to know how this script progresses. My stbx looks like death warmed up, or so I am told too. I have not spoken to him or seen him since January. He is increasingly vile tempered, swears and is aggressive to all and sundry.
Could you tell me how things usually go on from here? Its very stressful having further blow after further blow when you are moving on and the leaver appears to be stuck themselves in bitterness and recrimination as though it was nothing to do with them!! Best example being for me not moving on with the divorce, refusing to meet legal deadlines etc.
Advice would be greatly appreciated.