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am i overeacting

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secretbargainhuntlover · 02/06/2012 17:50

my mum rang and asked if she could take my son out one day, i said he would love that and asked where she would be taking him, she said the park

i was grateful for the 3 hours to myself and got loads done in the house

my mum rarely takes him out and his other granparents live far away so i thought he would have a great time

when she brought him back he was shouting to get out of his pram, he was 2 in april and hates been strapped in his pram as most toddlers do

i asked my mum if they had a good time and she said yes is was great and a pleasure to take him out,she said they had walked round the park 3 times, i said oh so he ll be tired out off all the running around then? she said no i doubt it he was in his pram , i asked why she didnt take him into the play area, she said she was scared incase he ran off, but the toddler play area has a heavy gate that children cant open

so my son was sat in a pushchair for 3 hours , i am grateful that she took him out but felt sorry for my son that he d been strapped in all that time

my OH asked how it went when he came in from work,when i told him he wasnt happy and said it wasnt fair for him to just be sat there all that time

so what am i supposed to do if she asks to take him out again? i dont want to get into an argument with her about it

btw my mum is 60 and fit as a fiddle

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HRHBumpingFuglies · 02/06/2012 17:59

Just ask her gently to take him out of the pushchair. Explain that he likes to run about a bit and suggest a relatively enclosed area to do it. Have you got reins? She may feel better with those.

Sounds like a misunderstanding to me, unless you have other issues with her?

LunaticFringe · 02/06/2012 17:59

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secretbargainhuntlover · 02/06/2012 18:01

she had reins

i understand she might be scared incase he runs off
like i said the play area has a gate u can close it has a spring on so children cant open it

no other issues

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HRHBumpingFuglies · 02/06/2012 18:08

Oh I see. So you think talking to her about it would cause an argument?

HRHBumpingFuglies · 02/06/2012 18:09

Sorry, ex post about reins

henrysmama2012 · 02/06/2012 18:13

I'd cut her a break - she probably loves him so much and is just over cautious but once she's had him on her own a small number of times she'll be much more confident and will be ok with him running about. She sounds like she's doing her best to help which is sweet.

Dprince · 02/06/2012 18:27

my mum has looked after dd alot she is now nearly 8. She is terrified of looking after, 15 months, because its been a while since she has had an actual baby to look after. Pils didn't look after dd until she was 7 and was senible enough not to run off. They were terrifies too. I would cut her some slack. She doesn't have him often and was probably scared something woudl go wrong and you would be mad, she would feel guilty or you wouldn't let her have him again. Can I suggest you go with her a few times and let her see he is safe in there. Then she might feel more comfortable?
The other thing could be that she thought she would never get him back in the pram.

Dprince · 02/06/2012 18:28

My posts are terrible today sorry. She is terrified of looking after DS, 15 months.

secretbargainhuntlover · 02/06/2012 18:51

thanx for the replies

ill go with her next time and show her that he s safe in the play area

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EclecticShock · 02/06/2012 18:53

Take him with her so she can see what you would do.

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