Dp and I split today, tomorrow we have to tell dd1 :(

[MrsRhettButler]

:( I'm feeling sad but it's going to be heartbreaking to have to tell Dd1, she's 6 :(

We've split on good terms and have decided to tell her together and stress that it's no ones fault, that we're just not getting on. That we're sad and it's OK to be sad and we both love her.

Not sure what I'm asking but I've no one to talk to in rl.

Dd2 won't notice, she's only 9mo

I'm soooo sad for Dd1, she's very close to her dad and he with her.

I sound horrible :( fwiw she didn't seem too fussed about sleeping in my bed, if she'd cried or asked again I probably would have let her but she watched a dvd in her bed anyway so she was ok

No, you don't sound horrible - you sound like you are weighing things up, and finding a balance between comfort, and keeping boundaries.

You know your daughter best, and what works for you as a family (had to smile about the biscuit tho - cheeky monkey! )

I know what you mean about discussing things with him - when you are going through such upheaval, you want to talk to the one person who knows you best, and who you have always talked to - yet that person is part of the upheaval, so you feel you can't, and it's very hard, and can feel quite lonely at first. Keep talking to friends, or venting on here, and it might help - hope today goes OK for you and yours x

Thanks :) well when it rains it pours! I caught a sick bug from the baby so I was feeling terrible yesterday and he came round to help out for a bit and to walk the dogs, I'm feeling better today though, ready to start my new life.

Thanks for talking to me and not making me feel bad about dd1, she seems to be coping ok at the moment so we're just taking it day by day :)