Meeting DP grown up kids for first time advice needed

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Well I am about to meet my DP grown up kids for the first time in a few days, they are to come to MY house for a meal, and I feel nervous and excited about it as I want to meet them, just not sure what to talk about or wary I say the wrong thing and offend one of them , any advice would be brillant thanks.

Gosh how nervewracking!

How old are they? And you? Do they work? Any common interests you might have?

They are all adults yes all working or studying, yes it is a nervewracking but exciting prospect!

Be honest! Tell them you've been looking foward to meeting them but have been really nervous about it because you know how important they are to DP. That will let them know you are nervous and might say the occasional silly thing, and more importantly let them know that THEY are important to both your DP and to you.

Mmm I like that Chitchat sounds good idea and I like that fact that I should tell them how important they are to me and my DP, a BIG thanks to you .

I met DP's son last weekend for the first time - was also nervous and excited. I felt happier on neutral ground so took the dogs for a walk then went for a drink.

Don't think I'd have had the nerves to cook the first time! Good luck, enjoy yourself and yes I agree that admitting you are nervous is fine

Thanks village glad it went well, yes I am thinking I would like us all to out for a meal but DP wants them to come to my house , maybe need to ahve a wee chat about this thanks again.

If I was meeting my mums new b/f for the first time I would NOT want him to tell me how important I was to him - it's ridiculous for a stranger to say that and would turn me against him straight away because it would be a lie. Meeting them is important to you, hoping you get along is important to you but - at this early stage - they are not. Stick to the how important they are to dp.

I agree with Jeezy, I wouldn't like t if a stranger told me how important I was to her and my dad - Of course I am important to my dad I do know him but you I have never met so why say something ott like that.

I would prefer you to be a normal person and not try to take the place of my mum or anything else - please just be yourself as i am sure my dad wouldn't date a drongo

Good advice Jeezypeeps as I have a Dh myself and we are very close , so yes I will certainly be careful what I say to them many thanks for that.