Punch in the face

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Hi,I am 20 years old and was with my ex "D"P for two years. It started off OK and slowly got worse, he began kicking and punching me and abusing me verbally,I always denied it was DV well today it was the final straw. I was in the local nightclub with my friend when my Ex came up and punched me in the face in front of everyone. I feel very alone and hope you ladies can help me.

If someone punches you in the face, you report it to the police, regardless of whether they believe you or not.

Hi we have moved this to relationships
Hope you can get some support both in RL and on MN, OP

Really sorry this has happened to you, what a shit. I think texting you afterwards shows he has no remorse for assaulting you. I would phone the police.

How awful for you. I agree with the others, this was assault and the police should be involved. You have nothing to lose from calling them.

How are you feeling this morning?

What an absolute bastard. You know that you need to get the hell away from him, and I completly agree with the wise words above about pressing charges. Even if it goes nowhere, it might make him think twice as he clearly doesn't think he's in the wrong. And if he attacks someone else in the future, the police will already know about him. Bullies like him get away with DV because its embarrassing, and easier not to report. Makes my blood boil

You will absolutely be OK without him. More than OK: now you can thrive, away from his angry and controlling presence.

Surround yourself with help at this time:

• open up to friends. They will be shocked and want to help you. Talking it out is an essential step for you to heal from this trauma.

• get some counseling: there are professionals out there who can help you get over DV more quickly than you might on your own. You can go see your GP and ask to be referred to counseling, and/or follow the Freedom Programme , which is a free group programme that helps women who have been through DV understand what happened, and avoid another abusive relationship in the future.

• Have a safe plan for how you are going to end it with him. Call 0808 2000 247 (Women's Aid) to talk it through with them: anything from your feelings, to practical steps you should be taking now.

• And do report this to the police. It will make you feel stronger. It is an act which, in and of itself, says "I am no longer a victim, and I am saying a strong No to abusive behaviour." Another likely benefit is that your abusive ex will get a shock from having the police round to talk to him and will be more inclined to leave you the hell alone. Absuers are ALL cowards at heart, and they are cowed by those they think are stronger than them (the police). And in your case, with so many witnesses, he may well end up getting charged with assault, which will make YOU so much safer.

I am so happy for you that you have seen his behaviour for what it is. You are so young too - you have all the time in the world to start afresh, with a better understanding of what is essential in any of your future relationships (respect).

It's not domestic violence. It's just violence. The same as if a stranger had come and punched you. You wouldn't hesitate to call the police then, please don't hesitate now.

Op Im guessing you are sleeping.

When i was 15 i got involved with a "man" who i ended up having 2 ds with and who ended up nearly kiling me and one of them.
I will say no more apart from the first time he tapped my mouth and my lip bled and he pulled my hair.
The last time he factured my skull and made me go into labour 3 months early.
It gets worse,and for you its already bad enough.
Speak to the dv unit at the police station,they will help you to make decisions.
Tell people too as you dont want to feel isolated,that gives him power.

I am 44 now and have a happy life,im sad i wasted 4 years of it though.

There is no need for you to be put through anymore of this crap.

Good luck.

Definitely police. The night club is likely to have CCTV too.

Call the police hun. He's a cheeky cunt who reakons he will get away with it. Show him how strong you are and press charges! The club will have cctv most do. Were any of your friends witness to it?
How are you feeling now?

Agree with others. Call the police. He's a bully and needs to be shown that you will not tolerate this.

You do not need him in your life

So you are actually away from him?
I presume so as you said an ex. Like the others have said, tell the police, there are witnesses, you can tell them his violence was why you left in the first place.
You wouldn't accept this behaviour from a random stranger in a club, you shouldn't accept it now.
Best of luck.

Hi, hope you're ok today op.

You will be so better off without him but I understand your need for reassurance.

If it's a recent split you'll still be feeling emotions for him and need time to get over them

The first port of call should be women's aid. They really understand and know their stuff. They'll be able to support you in your decisions so you won't have to go it alone

They can help you with reporting to the police too and the police will be grateful to "know" what he's like

Take care