DH told me he wants to leave following HUGE row on Tues (I'd shouted at him for having verbal road rage episode whilst DC, 17mths & 3yrs, I was driving and he had to lean across me to shout, swear & gesticulate at the other fella who retaliated in kind.) Cut to getting home, he had massive blow up, calling me a fucking whore, stupid cow, I should fuck off back to my ExH as he was a twat as well, threw cat food pouches at me (lol now but scary at the time) then barged me out the way to get through the door, all in front of the DC. At the end he states he's had enough of me talking to him like shit and he wants to leave.
He called his parents and told them he was leaving me, I had already taken the DC to my parents as I was so upset & they were visibly frightenedand I just wanted to get out the house. Was still adament he was leaving when I got back, was still very verbally abusive.
Today, his bday, he says he doesn't want to leave really, its my fault for always being horrible to him and making him angry and he is looking for some small glimmer that I am willing to change my attitude towards him and then he we stay. No apologies, just more accusations and telling me just how horrible I am.
This is not the first time but defo the worst. Have been having counselling but not really helping it seems. Not sure that I want him to stay if I have to ignore/excuse any behaviour he does that I don't like (staying out with mates till early hours, spending money we don't have on stuff for himself (tshirts, trainers, new tattoo) when me & DC going without).
Don't know what the way forward is. So confused. Asked Parents if I am that bad, we have close bond & they will tell me if I'm being too bossy etc. They think I have been very accommodating over the years but can't make my mind up for me. Need some clarity......