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Is he still my man??

47 replies

Parront · 30/05/2012 20:40

A few years ago,I met a guy.Lovely chap.We got on really well and were basically together 9 years.
After an arguement, he left me, but we started to see each other for a further 2 years,nothing special.It was me mainly going to him.Hes very jealous of my animals.
Last year, he told me he still loves me and when I prompted further discussion, he refused.
We split on a more permanent basis, but in early april,found ourselves in a duvet again.This led to a pregnancy scare which he was unaware of, but all was well.
We went out for dinner friday, and again, ended up at my place,which took me by surprise as I have pet rabbits in my bedroom.
Im skirting round the edges, I know, but I have no idea what to think.Im meant to be moving house but it keeps falling through.
We have a great friendship...getting on fabulously.
I still love this man, but when we broke up, we had serious issues and he keeps his cards close to his chest and will not discuss stuff.
I dont want to get hurt again, I dont want to hurt him,because I know I did, so should I just stay away??
Or is there any hope??

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oikopolis · 30/05/2012 20:42

you have a variety of strange details in your post that make the hairs on the back of my neck stand up. but to sum up, he sounds twattish (who are these people who are jealous of animals? i mean really) and you sound vulnerable and confused.

i would stay well away. he doesn't sound lovely, or like "your man".

CrispyCod · 30/05/2012 20:45

Are you sure he's jealous of your animals or is that just how you see it? Maybe he thinks you're kind of freaky to have rabbits running around in the bedroom. There is only room for one kind of Rabbit in the bedroom Wink

BellaOfTheBalls · 30/05/2012 20:46
Hmm

He sounds like a bit of an idiot I'm afraid.

Polite suggestion? If you want to find a nice, decent man it might be a good idea to get the rabbits out of your bedroom. It's all a bit Glenn Close.

JMO.

Xales · 30/05/2012 20:48

sounds like just a booty call to me.

BlackOutTheSun · 30/05/2012 20:51

Sounds like he is using you for sex

akaemmafrost · 30/05/2012 20:57

eh?

Original poster
Parront · 30/05/2012 21:14

Didnt explain fully...am nursing one bunny and other bunny has to be there.

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AgathaFusty · 30/05/2012 21:22

Nursing? For what?

Wghy does the other have to be there?

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Parront · 30/05/2012 21:24

Spinal problems.Theyre bonded.

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ZZZenAgain · 30/05/2012 21:25

if you don't want to get hurt, you know you have to block the sex. Remember the pregnancy scare, how did you feel then about having a dc with him?

DaydreamDolly · 30/05/2012 21:25

Oo-err. You're not breast feeding the rabbit are you? ConfusedGrin

BestestBrownies · 30/05/2012 21:26

Wow. You keep siamese bunnies in your bedroom. Not suprise he doesn't want any commitment. Confused

BestestBrownies · 30/05/2012 21:27

Daydreamdolly my thoughts exactly!

AKE2012 · 30/05/2012 21:28

Simple answer is cut contact. If you can not stay out of the bedroom when you are together and he doesnt want to discuss being in a relationship whats the point.

Original poster
Parront · 30/05/2012 21:28

Hahaha!! No....Hes having pain meds..

as for the dc...we decided years ago we wouldnt have kids.I have a daughter from a previous relationship.No longer living at home as all grown up.
I almost had kittens at the thought of another...

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mumofjust1 · 30/05/2012 21:28

No, he's not your "man"

He's using you

ThatGhastlyWoman · 30/05/2012 21:29

Booty call. You don't want a relationship with someone who is unable to 'discuss stuff', do you? (That, by the way, is often a cop out in my experience.)

TheCrackFox · 30/05/2012 21:34

Do you have a photo of your co-joined rabbits that you could put on your profile?

He isnt that keen on you so my advice would be to move on.

Original poster
Parront · 30/05/2012 22:02

Theyre not co joined.They are teamed up as a pair.Bonded is the word used when 2 rabbits live together.If you separate a bonded pair, they grieve.

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MooncupGoddess · 30/05/2012 22:04

Didn't it feel a bit odd to make love under your bunnies' beady gaze?

Original poster
Parront · 30/05/2012 22:06

no...its just like having the cat in the room.....no different....

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midwife99 · 30/05/2012 22:09

I'm a bit confused about the link between the bunnies in the bedroom & whether you want to get back together with this man!!!

Original poster
Parront · 30/05/2012 22:14

He doesnt like my animals...any of them.And currently I have 2 rabbits in the bedroom.He wouldnt normally come to nine because of the animals.When we broke up he said I would never love anyone like I love my animals.Id say that was jealous...

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BellaOfTheBalls · 30/05/2012 22:15

OP said her man felt jealous about her relationship with her animals.

Not 100% sure winning him back under the watchful gaze of Siamese bonded rabbits was the way to go about getting him back...

Headagainstwall · 30/05/2012 22:16

Some men do get a bit intimidated by rabbits in the bedroom ;)