Conact with DC at my house

[totallymessedupp]

Hi all,
I wondered if anyone had any advice for me? I made xp leave over a month ago (best decision ever) and me and my 2 ds are getting along fine, my 20 wk old is entirely unfussed and 2.6yr old had a few tears but seems fine now.
However, due to the fact that xp has very little money he cannot afford a flat and is currently residing on friends sofas. This means he has nowhere to see the DC so is currently visiting them at my house. I am managing to remain civil - even though I keep on finding out more evidence of his affairs/lies/spending etc on a daily basis - but I am beginning to feel more and more wound up when I see him. In fact I feel positively furious when he is about to arrive and I find it so hard not to inform him that he is a complete wanker etc.
Does anyone have any advice on how I can stop getting so worked up? It stresses me out but its pointless because even if I did have the opportunity to let him know my thoughts, he wouldn't care as he feels no guilt or remorse, he is only sorry that I finally kicked him out.
Thanks

Hand him a bag and the pram and tell him to take them out.

Don't have him at your house. You can arrange a meeting point somewhere neutral and leave them with him for a short time. But don't have him in your home if you find it upsetting.

is he likely to get proper accomodation soon? if is very shot term thing maybe fine but really best is he takes them out . his poblem to sort out where.
if will drag no for months then start now as you mean to go on -

or meet him at public place like park or library or soft play hand them over and leave tell him to drop thm home in two hours.
then handover on door no talking.

Tell him to take them out somewhere, park, library, softplay, whatever. But if you don't want him in your house, you don't have to have him there.

Is he coming round to try to wheedle his way back home, or is he unpleasant to you when he's in the house? Some men insist on contact in the family home purely to annoy their XPs.

The worst that can happen is that he stops seeing DC if he doesn't get everything his own way, but if he does this now they are young enough to get over it fairly quickly.

What everyone else said.

How far do his parents live? Usually grandparents like to have the children around.

I agree with everyone else....keep him out of your house. Its never a good idea.

Get him to take them out for a few hours.
His lack of money isnt your problem.

Good luck

Hi, i don't know how long he will be without suitable housing. Quite a while I would imagine.
XPIL are good, they look after the dc for a day each week. Sadly they don't wish to spend time with xp and logistically it would be a nightmare. Xp isn't nasty etc when round, as i would never allow him in my home again if he was. I just hate having to be mature and act civil to such a twat and suffer his company. Guess i just have to for the kids sake.
Thanks for the suggests :)

I was going to suggest grandparents too. Says a lot that his own parents can't be bothered with him! I agree that a neutral place outside of the home sounds like the best bet.

Is there any reason he can't take them back to his mates house?

If his own parents won't spend time with him, why should you?

Let him take the children out.

As stunt says, it is very telling when even his own parents are not willing to facilitate access for him.

You certainly dont have to have him in your house though. Arrange to meet somewhere neutral, hand the children over to him, and meet him again for him to hand them back to you.

Or, if you have a friend who can be the middle person, so that you can avoid seeing him, let her be at the door with the children perhaps.

It is his responsibility to put a roof over his head, and he is possibly hoping that by continuing to doss at his mates, you will feel sorry for him and let him back.