Help! Do I stay or do I go?

[HairyBeaver]

Hi ladies. I really need some advice please

I've been with dp nearly 7 years and have a dd (3) and ds(7) (not his bio son) and I'm struggling with my feelings.

I feel as though we are just good friends and I don't look at him and think "corr" anymore. We just float along with life with kids/work etc and I'm thinking of leaving him.

If I'm honest I don't think I've been happy for years and we did split up last year for 2 months.

I have had a crush on someone else for 3 years and found out on Saturday that he like me. That's not the reason I'm thinking of going, his a moo point and wouldn't wreak my relationship for another man, it's just a crush/lust. I know that. But it's made me think and evaluate my life.

I'm so scared of having to start all over again. The house and furniture is all his and I'm terrified my kids will hate me for breaking this family up.

My dp is 10 years older then me and I've been with him since I was 20. I just feel life is slipping away.

Then again what if I do leave and it's the biggest mistake of my life?

Dp knows there's something up but I haven't told him yet as I'm scared.

Please help

I think when you have kids with someone, and there is hard work and domestic drudgery, it is normal to look at them and not think "corr". So maybe your expectations are off? The grass is unlikely to be greener.

But you haven't said much about the relationship. Is it really all about fear of breaking up the family and fear of starting over? Are there any other pros and cons of this relationship? Might be worth writing down all the for and against.