told my dh I didn't care about our relationship

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I told my dh I didnt care about our relationship this morning. weve been a wedding and stayed over with the kids. Hes been rude and moody all weekend, this morning we all went for breakfast and wen we were about to sit down he just said he was going for a smoke and stomped out.

I went after him, kids stayed with family and had breakfast. I told him I was fed up and that I didnt care.

we havent spoke since, I do care but this was just the last straw.

im not sure what to do now, I want us to make it work but I no he'll revert back to thissort of behavior in a few weeks.

hes not a people person but hes like this everytime there is a party or something and im gettingsick to the back teeth of it.

sorry its a bit long

Leave him at home next time you have to go to a wedding?

Weddings are rubbish. Everyone fights at/after them.

You told him you don't care but you do...
Not the best start. You need to stop saying things you don't mean right now, so that when / if you talk this through you are more honest and, frankly, grown up about it.
Talking of acting grown up, has he explained why he felt the need to stomp off like a big sulky kid. In public... Nice...
Good luck, try to find time to talk.

My dh is similar and he's now agreed that he needs to make an effort - he gets anxious and nervouse about social situations etc but I don't want to live my life with completely seperate social lives as tbh it's making me miserable.

Thanks, I said it out of frustration, I wish I hadn't but I was that fed up with how he can be.

I dont want go to every party or family occasion alone, I want him make an effort for me. As I do for him.

it was quite humiliating this morning and im struggling get past that at the moment

Fortunately dh isn't extreme as yours if he were we'd have had full blown rows about it! It's just simmered away for years and we're finally addressing it.

I'm sure it was v humiliating. My dh is just shit at social stuff and frankly puts a downer on it. Is prefer it if he could come along and be like other men but there it is. However he would never haVe stormed out, I think that is very poor, I really do.
You need to talk with him. Is this s deal breaker? Is it grinding you down, one of many other straws or is it the only real issue. I would let him know you're thinking stuff through so that he realizes there are consequences to his actions.he really can't behave like this. Must go eat now, back later x

Well I have spoken to him tonight, I apologized for saying that I didn't care. He said when he smelt the breakfast it made his stomach turn,I asked him why he didn't just tell me that and he said I dont want to get in an argument. Basically killed the conversation and we haven't spoke since except for me to tell him im going bed.

he doesn't get it at all, weve got no other real issues but I hate the thought of attending any sort of occasion with friends or family on my own all the time.