So worried I'll never find anyone :-(

[SatinSheets]

I'm 31 years old. I am lucky and have a good life. I have full health, a decent career, 2 great kids, friends and hobbies. I go on holiday almost every year, I drive and rent a great little house. Really I have nothing to complain about.

But god I just wish I could find someone to share life with. In this hot weather all my friends have been at the beer gardens with their partners. My kids have been out with their friends - I so wish I had someone to call up and say "lets take a drive to the ___ " or even better - have someone call ME to ask the same.

I got some brochures yesterday for the USA. Amazing coach trips, blatently designed with couples in mind. I'm so worried I'll never find anyone. I never seem to get the opportunity.

When I go out with friends I either don't get any attention at all or I get chatted up by guys that are too drunk to care who they're talking to.
My work place is female dominated. My hobby is female dominated. I even did a male dominated hobby for a while (karate - and because I was interested in it, not to find a bloke!) and everyone there was either married or young enough to be my son.

As I say, I AM happy. But there is no denying there is that gap in my life and I'm finding it harder and harder to ignore.

If he is very caring, he will understand about your face.My guess is that he truly wont mind,but im guessing you would.I think I am right in saying that you can still skype but have it that he cant see you,if that is what you want?

I told him about my eye and his response? That eyepatches are very 'in' and that he swears he has seen the models in Vogue wearing them....

But knowing that there are good men out there - still doesn't make me want a relationship. But we should maybe keep this thread so that some lovely women on here can tell us about their unexpected meetings with lovely guys. It can be so odd and wonderful how some people meet....

He sounds lovely.It is lovely to have a caring friend.I thought it sounded like he would understand.

I feel moved by that Punk, people who matter love us for US. (((hug)))

Am lots older than you but for what it's worth... If you have a good place to live, your children are well and happy, you manage financially, you have some kind of social life with friends/family members, you have interests etc why do you torture yourself by yearning to be in a couple? Make the most of what you have (sorry, do not mean to sound preachy but I expect it does). I think it is possible to be conditioned into thinking that not being in a couple indicates a life that is not complete.

If you want to meet someone then you need to increase the number of people that you come into contact with so I would focus on trying to do things which will help with this - ie take up a new hobby (don't worry about it being male or female dominated - just pick something that you like), join a gym, start to volunteer for something, become a school governor, take evening classes etc etc and try to forget about "meeting someone" and just enjoy life whilst trying to increase your social circle.

i am 56 and have 2 boys (from an 8 year relationship) and i wish i could find someone to make me happy and someone whose life i could improve too. i wpould love someone who loves life to the full, is loyal and loves children. im not asking for a greek god, but someone with a reasonable sporty physique and someone who likes sport and going out.

Hi all. I do know what you are all saying but I think that summer is a great time to be single. All the couples I know are arguing now and there is temptation everywhere with lots of flesh on show. Quite a few are having affairs. At least as a single woman I can gawp at all the hotties in the park with their tops off and not feel guilty plus no irritable arguments in the heat. Also there are more social occasions in the summer. I'm going to a barb q at a pub on Friday for a friend's party. If I don't meet anyone I don't care but it is a chance to get out and enjoy my friends and the sunshine.

TBH after my last date I don't feel like I am missing out on a whole bunch.

Hmmm, I'm a single mum too - but I don't feel there is a gap in my life. I think it would be nice to meet a man I could have a relationship with, but I feel it would be a bonus, rather than a gap to fill or someone to make me happy.
My ex-H left me & the DCs 9 years ago & I've done a fair bit of dating & had 2 relationships in the last 9 years but most of all I've had lots of fun. About 4 years after ex-H left, I stopped looking for someone else & concentrated on me. I work full time & DS is autistic, so there is precious little time for me, but I started to focus on things that I would enjoy & would make me happy. It has made the world of difference & I feel a million billion times better for it. I'm dating, but if I meet someone, I know that this is an added extra, rather than something I "need".