What to do when they show you a glimpse of hope?

[gorgeousnewGRAVITY]

I was warned...... you have been there Mistress M, and you said I would.... there are up days and down days.... and days where you just put a happy face on to make it or break it....
What to do when dh shows a little of that man he used to be when it is maybe just too late.... yet my heart still starts beating fast just at his loving attention and his passionate words.....i thought i could just close the door to may heart, i dont need nor want the hurt he can cause.... yet i am sitting here bewildered like a teenager..... if i let him back in ever so slightly from just a glimpse by next week i will probably be back here online sobbing my silly heart out....... why cant i take the advice i would offer others..... anyone want to grab my heart and head and shake some sense into me!!!

I dont know GNGravity...BUT ironically my H did the same to me this weekend

the truth is that you havent fallen out of love YET. Your head tells you that hes a rat and he betrayed you but unfortunately your heart cant stop loving/fancying him as quickly.
if only we could switch off feelings.

however you have to remember how he made you feel and whether he made enough effort when you were trying....

maybe you could do what Sykes did and tell him he needs to prove himself to you b4 you let him back

its v v difficult

for me, H is still not showing any remorse - just told me it was hard for him to come back when I got cross with him - "you arrogant s@d - who says Id have you back" I said & drove off.
I was cross with him cos of something else hed said that was MY fault.

has your H asked to try again?

of course he could be playing with you - sees you looking good and wants to keep you hanging on while he has some fun
who knows how their minds work !!

oh FFS .. don't do it .. I don't know the history but if he's broken your heart once he'll do it again

when you get married you make promises .. anyone who breaks those promises is a spineless hedonistic weasel and truly does not deserve a 2nd chance .. especially not by whispering a few sweet nothings

so, what should you do? you should kick him in the nuts .. get in your car and park at a traffic light till you see another gorgeous biker

thanks girls your both so right..... had a great day feelin a little more happy with myself..... crazy enuf to ask for another slap on the members profile section!!! just for laughs!!!
twiglett.... i am just pickin myself up off the floor.........ffs you are SO FUNNY....... what you wrote has made my day............. shall i put the bonnet up of my car too???? that may pull a real good one!!! oooh... imagine when he takes his shirt off to fix my motor.........hmmmmmmmmmm........

gravity
No wonder you feel like this at times- you see he was the one who spoiled the relationship by his infedelity- he made all the choices- he was in control then.
You had no choice or say in what he did- you were still loving him and keeping your family together so all this has been forced upon you and you are now having to make choices that really you did not seek to chose!
Suddenly you are being forced to stop loving and it's hard - despite all the hurt because you still hold special all the good years you had together and can't quite believe that he can turn his back on all that.
thesad thibg is I think most men who go through this eventually wake up to what they've lost for so little- trouble is for many by then it's too late- too much hurt and pain and their dw has by then moved on and made her own choice!So don't beat yourself up for having trouble letting go of the love- it wasn't your choice remember!
Take care honey

Weigh up the pros and cons. Were you happy or was it a sham? THink back to the good stuff and then to the recent past.

We all make mistakes and I took mine back for a while in order to really let go the second time. Twiglet is right but sometimes we need to make sure things arent right.

You will have bad times. Sometimes the pain of it all grips me and I can hardly breathe but I know I have done the right thing and it will get better and better.

We all need to be loved and wanted but most of all I want to be respected.

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Sorry to hijack thread but Twiglet, I just wanted to say how deeply impressed I was with 'spineless hedonistic weasel'.
Sums up my ex perfectly.
You should copyright it

told you i'd be back sobbing - nearly a week ago.... i was right...... this thread is open and honest please dont judge me - i went out last night ... business thing... we went to rugby... had a corporate box it was fun.... went out with the business partners after rugby.... we ended up at one of our night clubs we have security at..... i had a great night... the new zealand rugby team turned up in the early hours.... they were nice guys and their attention i received was so good for my soul, we flirted and drank and laughed, it was nice. i had the opportunity to have a one night stand with one of the players, he was 25, young, sexy and nice. it would have been so easy and he begged me. he would be back on a plane to new zealand today no complications.... i couldnt.... still feel a loyalty to my dh.... bad timing and a one night stand wont help me anyway. i felt a nice ego boost. i had a sort of tip off dh is up to his old tricks today..... i know i have to let go.... i know this.... im scared... does anyone understand this? coz i dont

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thats just it we may not be together in the sense together... but to the public eye we are..... we are still under the same roof.... the business just copped a large tax bill.... currently the business needs us both... i dont know where to go from here....

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no - i know i should..... but all our assets are frozen anyway due to other legal matters... that just leaves our debts i have to go now but thankyou for responding blueteddy x