DH can be a lazy so and so at times. He works hard (in a job he loves though so not exactly a chore) to provide for us - we've moved abroad with his work and I can't work so no option for me to do the same. He's generally a good dad, plays with DS, makes sure he has sun cream on etc although rarely has anything to do with DD.
DS is 3.5yo and DD 6mo. DH generally gets up with DS and used to do stuff with him til I rose with DD. both children tend to get up about the same time now, DH's default is to turn tv on and fall asleep on the sofa. If he takes both children he'll being back DD at slightest whimper saying she's tired or hungry. Or he'll give me an hour max then come back saying we have to swap. Then take ages finally getting out of bed so I spend whole morning nagging.
He stays up late watching crap tv or playing video games so he's tired. I on the other hand am exhausted after 6months of no sleep, still being up several times a night feeding DD, and emotionally fragile because she's hard work getting down for naps - which he never offered to help with.
We were both moody and horrid today because we were tired. I go to bed at 8:30 to catch up, he says he won't be up late. DD is up at 9:45 and again at midnight - DH'S not in bed. I go to tell him what time it is and he as per gets defensive. I know now he'll be tired when DS wakes at 6am, will expect me to get up because I went to bed early (never mind I will be up more now with DD) then he'll be in horrid mood again tomorrow cod of tiredness.
And he winders why I have no energy for sex. He just used to be better at understanding that he needs to be in bed earlier to help cope, especially at weekends. He's just taken himself off to bed in the spare room.
I'm just so tired, angry and upset