Name changed as previous posts have mentioned what a wonderful husband I had.
So last night I looked at his mobile as he was sleeping off a work's day out. It was slipping out of pocket, I knew the passcode and saw a txt. Opened it assuming it would be a quick msg from a colleague on day out and was stunned to discover a number of txts backwards and forwards with a woman saying she wished he was with her and loved him. Lots of kisses too from both of them. While he was waiting for me to pick him up he also sent her a txt asking if okay to call her - but she hadn't received until later.
I took the mobile out the room - long story short discovered also that he had a secret email address to which she had sent extremely explicit photos of herself close up. He kept all of them since being sent in Feb.
I am devastated. This is a man who I would have gambled my life on would not do this. He said it was someone he met in a city (far away) 6 months ago, she gave him her number and he got in touch. Says he found it easy to talk to her and that he's had no one to talk to since his mother died 3 years ago! Said he was calling her every 2 to 3 days. All her details are now deleted (I checked but that's not to say he knows them anyway)
The way I see it was not polite chit chat as she sent the pics and he kept them. Said he told her not to send anymore -but more were sent this week with the caption "to keep you going when you're away".
Now that he's been found out he is ever so sorry and can't believe he was so stupid.
Says he will move out as that's what I've said I want.
But I'm so hurt. I want to hurt him so he knows what it feels like. Have told one person in RL and she is very supportive.
We have one child together - 2 years old - and have been together for 6 years and both have children from previous marriages - which has been a strain at times but I never ever thought it would come to this.
Messages of support would be appreciated