Feel I've had enough of a long term friend

[tulipsaremyfavourite]

I know this is going to sound awful but I have really had enough of a friend recently. We have been friends for a long time over 25 years. We had loads in common at one stage but not so much now (I'm married with kids,she's not) but that's not really the problem.

The problem is that whilst my friend is essentially a nice kind hearted person she is also very scatty unreliable and tactless at times. She has lost a lot of friends over the years due to her always being late and changing plans at the last minute. But I put up with all that because we always had a laugh when we met up.

But recently I am really questioning her integrity. She is desperate for a baby and has been trying to trick her boyfriend into getting her pregnant by pretending to be on the pill when she isn't. I know the urge to have a baby is very strong but that is the wrong way to go about it.

She works for a charity but doesn't seem to care about the cause and pretends to work from home and instead goes to the gym/out shopping.

She can manipulative and lies, not to me but other people. She's had a string of boyfriends who've all dumped her saying she is selfish irresponsible and couldn't cope with the responsibilty of having a baby to look after and I agree with them.

But besides all the negatives she is funny, generous, not bitchy and I do like lots about her.

But I find her very annoying as well.

Any opinions would be very welcome.

There are some people I've known from a long time back, who are like this. I tend to be quite zero tolerance and am finding that the more years go past, the more of my friends make the same decision as I have WRT not wasting time/energy on them.

It's sad for them but I think basically they probably have some kind of profound personality or mental health issue, and no-one can help with that except themselves really. Trying to offer your support or time or energy or practical assistance to someone who savours the problems they're having, and won't accept a solution is just emptying your resources - which could be spent on the people who really need them - into a bottomless pit IMO.

That probably makes me sound incredibly intolerant but there are enough people we all know who would appreciate a hand or a phone call or help with something, and it would make a difference to them. Don't waste your time.

I mean don't waste your time on these other, emotionally sapping type of people. Save it for those who need it and can use it.