Is this normal?

[Betsy71]

DH and I are both members of our local gym. He insists on telling me, in some detail, the er... dimensions of any well blessed man he sees in the changing room. I do try to humour him a bit but I'm not sure this is normal or healthy! There are some men I can't look in the eye now in the spin class!

Weird not gay! Great. I suppose that's better.

Have you ever asked him what the fuck he's telling you for?

Not as bluntly as that but think that's the way forward. Wish me luck!

Sorry betsy! I thought it might be reassuring. DH went on to talk about some guy who has an animal penis collection... I'm not really sure why. Maybe he was trying to say it could be worse?

Could you not, instead, regale him with some detailed codswallop about an exceptionally hairy muff that you allegedly viewed recently? Perhaps in the changing rooms at Top Shop, or similar.
Ramble on about it until he thinks you are quite mad.

When he asks why you mentioned it, tell him you have taken an interest in viewing genitals as it is nice to have a shared hobby.

I like Beckamaw's suggestion. :)

Beckamaw you made me laugh

Michael McIntyre(stand up comedian) does a funny skit on naked men parading round a changing room

Are you sure he's not trying to (un)subtly find out if you're interested in any of these men? Sounds like he might be jealous of all the male competition and is trying to gauge your reaction.

Or tell you he's gay. Sorry!

I think he wants you to ask questions back and show some interest. Don't be surprised if at some point in the future he suggests some 'company' in the bedroom.

Thanks for the advice! Just had it out with him after his latest tale of some naked Greek god with a six pack and enormous willy! Didn't go down that well.

Oh dear?

Did he give you any kind of clarification? Because...it is weird.
Whatever his motivations he needs to sort them out really. Either he's gay, bi, really very insecure and going about things weirdly, interested in getting a guy in the bedroom or just...enjoy admiring other men...
Sorry there isn't a way I can phrase that that doesn't come across a bit strange. DH was like it's all he can do not to be forced to get an eyeful.

Hopefully when he stops being all huffy he might actually explain?!

Hope so. He's stropped off now so we'll see. A few more glasses of wine and I might be down there myself to verify the evidence!

Well, he's pretty much beaten the path for you hasn't he! Go and hover when this adonis is mean to be about!!

It does seem a bit of an odd way to get either a bit of reassurance or idk, I was thinking about it and amybe it is a bit like the situations with bodybuilders- they have gruopies, it's all a bit of a circlejerk really. Maybe he's got a bit of body insecurity and keeps describing his ideal because he's got a bit too focussed on it. Still odd.

Ugh thanks to asking about this DH thinks he's hilarious by walking around with his willy out and asking 'so, do you think I'd pass muster? I'll let you watch me shower my special place if you behave' while flexing his 'guns' - I've told him to go and waft it somewhere else so he's off to up the ante, god knows what he'll be up to next. I should know by now to keep him well away from MN.

Well would he nicnoc? sorry - the Friday night wine has come out!

Mmm just what I was thinking.....hic..,

Yes, he is very generously endowed. But while I appreciate it I still don't think it's very attractive, very neat coin purse though. I do remember what a nice surprise it was! I'm not sure even he would describe himself as an Adonis, no six pack...very nice buttocks though. And not hairy. Can't cope with a wild ball sack or hairy bum crack.

Hmm, he caught me peeping over the laptop screen and would like to add that while maybe not Adonis his belly is useful for warmth and if I keep saying nice things he'll let me pinch his bum. How generous of you darling [rollseyes] He thinks he's Voltaire and has made a 'witty' remark about tame ballsacks and 'give it a little whistle' [facepalm]

Love the phrase 'very generously endowed'! Not a very Friday night way of putting it! Hung like a donkey? Dont tell him I said that tho!

Pffft I haven't got my mitts on the wine yet, that's why! Yes, a very nice Donkey though!

Got his own kickstand. He's refreshingly modest about it, apart from today. He's all mouth tonight but if I told him you said that he'd probably blush!

I just asked DH and straight away he said "gay" as he avoids looking, uses the stalls at work if someone is using the urinal already etc. Basically not interest in looking at or commentating on another blokes tackle!

What did your dh say during your conversation? Is he possibly just very insecure about what he has?

He basically denied it and asked why I was making an issue of it. Think you might be right about the insecurity. It's as if he wants me to compare him to them.

I really don't like how I look down there (and a fair few parts of me too) I'm very glad it's not very easy to see how different woman are (well provided you don't look at porn!) no way would I want to be able to compare myself every time I went to the gym.