I just wrote all this out and it didn't post, so pls bare with me.
Been very happily married to dh nearly 4 years. We've always had a as close to perfect relationship as pos. Always talking things thro when things rarely arose, spending lots of time together, as well as having our own personal moments. Our dd was a surprise, arriving a year before we were hoping to start trying. (yet now hubby us saying he never really thought he would have kids. :$ )
Hubby found it very difficult In the early days. A massive interruption! Not bring easy to stick to timings etc or leave the house when he wants to. I had c section as well so hecwas needed alot. Anyway things are much easier now with dd, but we've been arguing alot recently. Him always asking if I'm ok and what's going on. I am sooo happy. I love spending time with my dd, have discovered proper home cooking, and I'm a hairdresser and have continued to do home hair since she was 6 weeks, so have been lucky enough to make my own money.
Anyway, we has a conversation last nite about our holiday end of July to Devon. And he said it's going to be really different, not being able to go to the pub for a few drinks in the evening. I find comments like that hurtful, as I think of it more as all the lovely things we can show her etc. He asked what was wrong and it blew up in a massive barney (in front of our dd which I hate!)
Afterwards I realised we just don't have the same interests anymore. My dd is mine, and hubby, although he loves and adores her, had enough after half hour, and doesn't even have bath time with her like he used to. This doesn't bother me as I love doing it. Just he is missing out. And by the time she's I bed and the bottles are sorted, I'm lucky if ive got an hour to sit and watch (some junk he's got on the) tele. I've never dropped him from doing anything. His life has continued as it was, jetskiing, mountaining biking etc. And we do on occasion, Go out and dd sleeps in her pram until she wakes and gets fretful, then i feel guilty and dont want to do it again for a while.
I have also found some of his imperfections intolerable since our dd arrival. Like shouting 'fing c*#t' and every thing that gets on his nerves, be it the laptop, the door or kitchen utensils. Suddenly all this stuff gets to me cos i don't want our dd to be exposed to such language.
I guess what I'm asking is how do we find stuff in common again?! Obviously in his eyes it's my fault cos I'm the one that's 'changed' as hes the same. How do I make myself find his stories of idiotic colleagues and how he's going to go about painting his bike interesting?!
I'm hoping when I go back to work for a few days end of June, things will calm down. Nut hubby has got a week off over the jubilee, and I don't know how were gonna tolerate each other. I feel like he hates me, and I can't really see what I'm doing wrong, other than trying to give our dd the best. Pls help!! Xxxx