What do I do?????

[Destiny065]

My partner is a very money orientated person I knew that when I got with him. We are engaged and have a lovely ds. Well tonight we realised that things hadn't came out of my bank bills etc so we had less money than we thought but my dp took it out on me because we were short again. Telling me to go a run in my car and don't come back swearing n all sorts! I told him I think it would be best if he slept on the couch tonight and he said that's fine don't wanna sleep with you anyway! This is happening every time we seem to struggle a bit I get it off him! What do I do a part of me is telling me to leave him but I'm thinking of my ds. I have tryed telling him that it's not my fault and spoke about it to him n he keeps shouting at me n telling me to f**k off. How is this my fault and what do I do I'm really hurting now! ??

Do you have anywhere to go? Because i would do exactly what he is telling me to do, take my dc and "fuck off". Who the hell does he think he is .

He is NOT your boss or your owner. This doesn't sound like a partnership, it sounds awful.

Disrepectful twunt.. let HIM f%^k off.. out of your life.

Really? I thought it was just me it happens all the time and then he will sit and talk to me 10 mins later like nothing's happened I love him so much I have been with him for 5 year bit I can't keep getting put through that it's not fair just in a bit of a position tbh

I love him so much What's to love about a man who treats you like shit?

You've put up with this for 5 years? Honey, you should have run a mile after the first 5 minutes.

So he verbally abuses you.
Never apologises.
Behaves like it hasn't happened.
Happily rants at you without accepting responsibility.
Values money over his partner (and treating said partner with respect)
Your DS may be lovely now, perhaps not so much after he's started modelling your P's unpleasant behaviour.
Do yourself a favour. Either ask to be treated with more respect (though I doubt you would get any tbh) or leave.

All relationships have ups and downs. A lot of people experience financial problems from time to time. In a good relationship, couples can handle differences and still treat each other decently and respectfully. Money is a common flashpoint in relationships. If those bills hadn't got paid because someone had been spending money irresponsibly, that's annoying. If it's an error, or if you're short on a regular basis, it's stressful. Either way, you should be able to talk about the problem calmly together and find solutions. Not be slammed with aggressive verbal abuse such as you describe.

FWIW Stay or leave as you think fit, but really don't marry a man that wants to be totally in control of your finances.

Do you know that's been from yesterday he has not once apologised and hea actually being dry with me two can play that game