Does Relationship counseling work ?

[joanne34]

Just wondered whether it has worked for any couples ?

Statistically speaking, it has to work some of the time or there would be no point. Whether it works in your situation will depend a lot on the attitude of the parties going in, how much they're prepared to take responsibility or change behaviour, and the skill of the mediator.

How do I go about getting counseling ?

DP and I have both agreed to it. I dont know whether we have to pay for it or whether it's free or whether I should do through IAPT as I have been referred to them through my GP..... ???

You could try Relate

is that free ?

I've no idea, sorry.

£50 a session !

£25 each per session. Is he worth it?

I suspect that by "does it work", you mean "will it keep my marriage together".

I would posit that relationship counselling also "works" when it helps one or both members of the couple come to a better understanding of what their relationship needs are, and to accept that these needs are not being met in this particular relationship. That is also a positive outcome.

Do engage in relationship counselling if you can afford to and it is what you want to try. But understand that relationship counselling is not about getting the outcome you think you want, but rather it is about coming to better understand both your own needs and those of your partner, and seeing whether these are compatible.

@ izzyizin, we have a joint account so it's not really £25 each.

Plus i am assuming it will be more than just one session !?

Now he is saying that that he would rather sort it out without counselling.
He doesnt talk though........... eugh.....

My math is based on the presumption that you both work or each have your own income.

You may make some progress after 3 or 4 but realistically you'd be looking at 6-8 sessions.

What is the problem or what are the issues in your relationship?