football.v. real life

[Alltheseboys]

Does anyone else have a dh so engrossed in watching football that the world around them seems to stop? One of my ds' has just run upstairs to tell me that my 4 year old has fallen asleep on the sofa & had an accident. His dad has noticed but hasnt changed him because he's waiting for the match to finish!
Im so angry & disappointed at his ridiculous, immature, inconsiderate, selfish behaviour.
My dad once recorded a match over a recording of me presenting a show on BBC when I was younger. Are these the worst cases of football coming first?

just checked him. ds over exaggerated. Was not wet just sweaty but dh is still in trouble for not putting him first

Who comes first when you are posting on mumsnet!

Well it was an important game.... Your son was safe

Lol at Fox - my thoughts too!!

Here we go foxinsocks. I checked him before I updated obviously. Should I have updated the second I did it?!

let the man enjoy a game of footie

But you still came on here to have a rant before checking on your child... so you both sound as preoccupied as each other.

Um....pot and kettle????

and possibly slightly unpopular view but you know your children do not have to come first every single time about every single thing -sometimes they can wait, in fact sometimes they should wait....In your post - - your husband watching football, child sweaty but clearly fine, so husband continues watching football - whats the problem?

So, your dh was watching something that was clearly important to him, and your 4 yr old was asleep on the sofa.
Not sure what you are getting worked up about ?

it was a very exciting game it has to be said

Perhaps it is just me being old fashioned, but shouldnt a 4yo be in bed at 11pm, not dozing on a sofa..

He should have done what I did and go to the pub for the night. No kids, no responsibilities, just football and beer...bliss!

Read it again backforgood
I am 7 months pregnant squeakytoy & lying down upstairs, not that easy to move! Boys wanted to watch football with their dad as hes been out all day & Ive had them.
My children do come first II31 especially if its a choice between them & football.He thought he had an accident, I wouldnt wait to change him if I thought that was the case. I guess not everyones the same.
I wish people would ask or read threads properly before they start laying into people.

good idea maleview70. If he was a pubman! When the boys are older he can take them with him & leave me in peace :)

I wouldnt wait to change him if I thought that was the case. I guess not everyones the same

Er no... you thought to post on here to have a rant, you didnt go and check on your child.

I've read it again. What do you want next ? I answered what you'd put. Not wanting to put anything different now I've read it a 2nd time thanks.

Okay squeakytoy. Whatever you say

I think you need to relax a bit op - I'd hazard a guess most of us, including me, put our children first - my point was that "putting your children first" doesn't actually mean putting them first every single second of the day, in every incident, when unnecessary and possibly bad and probably extremely irritating for them. It also doesn't mean accusing other people of not "putting them first" when clearly you don't actually have all the facts. Actually, nothing bad happened... happily your husband appears clearly able to look after your husband without your intervention, so as I say perhaps you should relax

I was trying to II31 but never seem to be off duty! Even when they're with their dad I always seem to be the one being called to see to them, thats what being a mums about I guess. I know it was an important match to some people. But when you've had a long Saturday in with 4 boys sometimes its better to rant then have a row in RL. I guess I thought I didnt need to check him if he was with his dad, you live & learn!

but you didn't actually need to check him cos he hadn't had an accident!!!! And if he had and it wasn't sorted straight away - is that really the end of the world... anyway, you sound really tired so hope you sleep well!!!

Does anyone else have a dh so engrossed in watching football that the world around them seems to stop?

Yes, I've experienced this too, pisses me off!

yep II31 I am, hence the need to rant! I got called to check him by my other ds when i was trying to rest which happens very often! Like you said not the end of the world. Anyway am going to catch up on TOWIE in the hope that will put me to sleep. Thanks :)

Thanks Crispycod, was beginning to think it was only me. I forgot for a minute how important football is to some people :)

If one of my dcs comes to tell me something (sort out an argument, see to a wound, type thing) when dh is also in the house, sometimes I deal with it and sometimes I say "Where's Dad?" or "Go and tell Dad" or "Go and show Dad". If your 4 yr old was in the same room as his Dad, then I don't understand why you didn't tell the one who came to you "Dad is in the room, I@m sure he's got it all under control".. You didn't have to come down, you chose to. The more you do it, the more they rely on it.