but I'm unhappy that I seem to be making him unhappy??
Regular poster here, just changed my name for this one.
Don't really want to say too much as it'll give away who I am. But basically DH and I having some big problems at the moment. Lots of little arguments over nothing and resulting in the other night him saying that we would have to work as a different type of family unit from now on. Doesn't actually want to split up, yet, but doesn't feel we can continue as proper DH and DW couple as things stand at the moment.
Basically I think he's got to the stage where we're staying together for the children. He said the other night that if we split up I could easily take the boys hundreds of miles away and there would be nothing he could do about. Making it sound to me he's worried that if we split up he won't see the kids.
That's not the case at all, if we do split up I very much intend to stay in this town, I've got a great support network of friends as well as work here. My oldest is at a great school, and the youngest will start a fabulous nursery September next year - so no way I'd leave this place.
He seems to think we're both making each other unhappy. But despite all the downs at the moment I really do still love him. He on the otherhand thinks I'm a 'terrific' person but that we've both changed since we got married x yrs ago.
However, I'm only really unhappy because I'm making him unhappy - but I don't know how to explain it to him. When I try and sit down and explain stuff to him in words it invariably ends in a row, with me in tears.
I did suggest relate to him but he didn't seem convinced, and money is a little tight at the moment so not sure we could afford it anyhow. How do I explain it to him??