Do you feel like no one cares - depressing post sorry.

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I have no contact due to my parents being abusive and my own family not knowing the truth (not caring about the truth tbh).

There is no one to ring up and 'tell' things to.
When my children achieve or do something wonderful there is no one to tell it all to.
When I feel ill no one can help because I have to cope and get on as husband is RAF an works away a lot.
He is quite dismissive really and although is good in a lot of ways, he is not a particularly affectionate or doting husband.
I have vague friends, but then we move and I have to start again.

I love my children dearly..but sometimes I just feel like no one knows I am here and no one cares. My husband is going away for 6 months soon. Then there really will be actually no human being around that cares for me (accept my children who depend on me).

I just feel empty at the moment.

I am not alone. I have read on here so many of you have little or no family/ partner etc. How do you get through each day??

To be honest I don't feel like hat, but I have in the past and my family situation is similar.

I have the benefit of a lovely husband, who has encouraged me to get into contact with friends from long ago. I now (I suppose, because DH has built up my confidence) have a very large group of friends, and am very sociable and able to form new relationships easily.

I suppose what I'm saying is twofold - are there friends that could become more if so is it worth investing in them?

and

What could you do to build your self confidence and trust in others?

I'm sorry you feel like this. I didn't want to read & run without posting but I don't really know what to suggest. Hopefully someone will be along who can help.

i suppose life is what you make it

if you are all woe is me all the time, its difficult for people to be around that day in day out because it is so wearing :(

also, if everything is always someone else's fault, again that is pretty wearing

I'm a single parent, work from home and my family lives 200 miles away. If I have a problem or I'm burning to tell people something I get on the phone, simple as that. It's taken quite a bit of effort - not a natural networker by any means - but I also make sure I get out and about as much as I can and find ways to make friends and pursue hobbies. If I'm ill I just have to suck it up, take paracetamol and hope for the best :)

I've always thought the military community was quite close and good at supporting each other when partners are away. Is that not the case for you?

I think I am just having a bit of a wobble that's all. Sometimes everything is well but it can be a very lonely life in the military.

No one would know that I feel like this. I am usually bubbly and there are 'driends' around but these are arbitrary relationships. We make these relationships because we have to get by...but honestly they do not last very often because it is usually a matter of months before one of you moves on.

Even my hunsband isn't aware of the loneliness because I keep things to myself and get on with things as usual. I haven't given up or anything...just feel like I am alone at the moment ans dreading the inevitable 6 months of loneliness because there is no one to call. I can have a cuppa with a friend every now and then...but having no family can be very isolating. This year I will have my birthday, my daughters and son's birthday and christmas alone complately (will try to organise kids parties). Just the three of us. I will make the best of it for them though.

I have times where I dwell a bit like this. I dont have any "blood" family. Not a single one. I also dont have any children.

I have a husband, grown up stepkids, and a MIL who I am very close to and love dearly, but it is a very very sobering feeling when I realise that there is just me, and I do worry about what will happen as I grow older, as my MIL will not be here forever, and my husband is a few years older than me. I know that there are no guarantees, but statistically it is likely that I will be on my own, and that is very daunting to consider.

Chin up lass. I'm having a bit of a wobble too at the minute. I know it will pass though, and your wobble will too.

My way of getting through things is having happy places. One is my local art gallery and the other my favourite coffee shop. One or two hours with a good book soothes my soul a bit. I can be just me there. No labels, just me. It doesn't sound much, but it shores me up a bit, and I've met some nice people along the way.

I appreciate this may be a little bit more difficult for you, I don't know how old your children are, and if you have any time on your own during the day. What about organising a child sitting service on camp with the other mums? It may let you all have a little bit of me time.

disclaimer; I am sadly not a mum, and I can't pretend to know how you're feeling. But I wish you all the best, I really do.

I don't think many of us have lots of close, long lasting friends ... most people are acquaintances, colleagues, we know them through the children etc. and there will be just one that we go back further with, especially if we've moved location a few times. I'm struck that you say your husband is 'dismissive' and not very affectionate and, do I read that right, won't be in touch much whilst away? I would say that, if the one person you're meant to be closest to is distant or unsympathetic even when they are present, you may find your 'loneliness' is symptomatic of the emotional stress that kind of relationship can put you under.

I think that the fear of loneliness is much worse than actual aloneness iyswim. The 'what's wrong with me/why don't I have any friends/everybody else has loads of friends' the last one is baloney btw are the killer. It's that that drags us down to the depths imo.

Plenty of us have isolated lives - even people who look like the life and soul can be feeing very lonely sometimes. You never can tell what really goes on and imo I think there are far more lonely people around than we realise.

Do you work? if not, perhaps get a vol job? It's good to be around people, even if it's just for chitchat.

Thank you to all of you. Just being able to express some feeling on here and have a person respond is comforting to say the least

I will come out of this slump - but things get to us all from time to time. You have all said constructive things and it has reminded that things are never as bad as they seem .

Thank you to each one of you

Sorry you are feeling like this OP, I occasionally feel something similar. I think feeling isolated and feeling lonely are not the same, as its not always easy to develop strong new relationships/friendships e.g. if you are moving around alot.

In such circumstances it might be something you have to accept at some level, at least for a while. Will things change in the future OP, i.e. will you be staying somewhere more permanently?

Talk to dh