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Dating thread 15! cock-cages, hopeful pensioners the occasional glorious success!

999 replies

Snapespeare · 18/05/2012 12:45

apologies for title, I am bereft of ideas as the sodding times 'kindly' edited my profile for me. Angry

OP posts:
ChaoticismyLife · 01/06/2012 14:20

The relationship threads on here are enough to make anyone vow to stay single eternally.

I like Mr Lovely, sounds appropriate. No negative thinking allowed, not atm anyway.

Obviously if there are any niggles that just don't go away, this is in general, not just watch, then they need to be voiced so we can give advice/opinions.

For now though watch just enjoy the moment and the time you spend together.

TimeForMeAndDD · 01/06/2012 14:27

The relationship threads make me feel ill. I wish I wasn't addicted to reading them. They all read the same. Every single thread/man has a pattern and/or script. I have come to the conclusion that men and women just are not designed to live together. I mean, people know not to put petrol with a naked flame because the results are explosive, so they don't do it. But yet men and women keep living together. Why??

But, I would like a bit of what watch is getting Grin

ChaoticismyLife · 01/06/2012 14:29

Because we live in hope?

I'd like a bit of what watch is getting too Grin

TimeForMeAndDD · 01/06/2012 14:32

I genuinely believe that the key to a happy and successful relationship is not to live together. And not see each other too often. Keep the mystery.

TimeForMeAndDD · 01/06/2012 14:32

I keep thinking about the picnic. What did he do with it? Is he having it for tea?

PostBellumBugsy · 01/06/2012 14:32

I'm addicted to the relationship threads too. I see the demise of my own marriage played out by other MNers over & over again.

I also see a whole lot of women who don't look out for themselves better too & I want to shake them hard. I want to scream from the roof tops - this is not the 1950s. You should have access to a bank account, you should know what the household income is - even if you are a sahm. Every woman in the country needs to have a pension too. The days of marriage lasting a life time are long, long gone & women need to be much more practical. Not gold-diggas, but just sensible about their financial future.

Sorry rant over. Blush

TimeForMeAndDD · 01/06/2012 14:35

Totally agree with you Post. I do think some women give over far too much of their power in the name of love.

Sunshinedelacruz · 01/06/2012 14:37

Betty: I get the same. All the time. Its annoying as you cant get by the one word saga.
Ive even got to the dizzy heights as a few sentences and still...nothing!

Sponge: rejection is very hard, I know. I sent a short message I liked the look of on POF the other day and he sent one back saying "thanks, but not for me". I think Id rather be ignored. I felt really awful for a while and thought maybe I am not attractive enough to actually be on a dating site.
And to to top it a friend told me (although Im convinced she is lying) that when she was in hospital the nurse asked her twice if I was her frigging mother. She is the same age as me.
So, I wasnt feeling too chipper yesterday.
Time is right though - rejection isnt about us, its about them and how they are feeling.

Watch: its great to hear you are speeding to date 5!

Mrs C - as Time says - you get some good dates and meet cool people. I think Im on the wrong part of POF!

MLM - glad you are feeling ok

Actually - yep - keep going

PostBellumBugsy · 01/06/2012 14:40

eeeew Sunshine - what kind of friend is that?! Don't do any more hospital visits to her.

hatesponge · 01/06/2012 14:42

Time I was wondering about the picnic too :)

My dad told me never to rely on a man and keep my financial independance, and I have (albeit I did buy a house and have a joint account with the Evil Ex, which given his subsequent financial profligacy was a bit of a mistake...)

Door man has gone off to do my quote, am hoping I might hwear from him end of next week maybe...am going to text him in a week if I havent heard by then :)

hatesponge · 01/06/2012 14:44

Sunshine thats Shock. I wouldn't bother visiting her again. I have so called friends like that too. IA year after I lost nearly 5 stone I am still waiting for several of them to comment on the fact I have lost weight!

TimeForMeAndDD · 01/06/2012 14:46

I tried to keep my financial independence but found myself stripped of it by a very manipulative and abusive man. I had it all when I met him and nothing when I left him.

I'm sure you will hear from door man Sponge, and if you don't you have good reason to contact him Smile

TimeForMeAndDD · 01/06/2012 14:47

Sunshine and Sponge people like that are NOT your friends! End of!

watchoutforthatsnail · 01/06/2012 15:35

Sponge, really, some haven't said anything? Wow.
Fuck them! And that includes you too sunshine.

Time and post. Yep, me too, I agree totally.

Chaotic, dont worry, any niggles will be posted. Or just generally anything because ive not got this far dating since I was 19, so have no clue really!

MsCellophane · 01/06/2012 15:41

Ooh Watch - sounds fantastic!

Sponge - please stop being so down on yourself, we've all seen the pictures - you're gorgous, start seeing what we can see! Don't text, phone him next week, have a chat

I am finding some nice people but also getting 100's of unsuitables that just get deleted. MrBig is texting daily, so maybe his name should be MrConfused

TimeForMeAndDD · 01/06/2012 15:58

Can I ask, at what stage do people give out a mobile number and go from POF to text? Before a date is arranged and when one is on the cards or just because you want to text rather than POF? I'm a bit tight when it comes to sharing my number.

TimeForMeAndDD · 01/06/2012 16:04

I've just received this message from the biggest ugliest mankiest potato ever!

Hi Sweetie... I love your profile, So I am Just wandering how you feel about chatting with a view to meeting up sometime soon ??

ABOUT ME... I am looking for someone, who like me.. like's long sessions of naughty sex(Well personally I find it a much more enjoyable way to burn calories than a gym) Oh I should also add that I am a Dom male into most things especially giving oral.. So if you have a fantasy or are into role play I would love to hear about it and make it happen... I am looking for something regular if all goes well with US.. and I hope you are not offended by me getting straight to the point.

So in closing Princess: if you fancy being kissed & licked in those intimate places then when you have cum in my mouth a couple of times, Being f**ed deep & hard.. please do let me know x

THAT has put me right off my chocolate peanuts, it has.

ChaoticismyLife · 01/06/2012 16:18

Time that literally made me laugh out loud Grin

Another man who thinks that just because he wants sex then every woman must be gagging for it too. Wrt being the mankiest potato, I'll take it he either has a guide dog or hasn't looked in a mirror for a while Grin

Meanwhile, I think I've unleashed a monster Hmm

mercury7 · 01/06/2012 16:20

I get those types of messages too..it's not that I'm offended by the sexual explicitness, more that I need to meet the person first to see if there is any spark.
I'd like to think that the bloke would need to meet me first..otherwise it's all too impersonal even for just casual sex.
He's probably just looking for somone who will message back with some filth to assist him with his jerking off Hmm

TimeForMeAndDD · 01/06/2012 16:26

Oh there would definitely not have been any spark with this one, trust me. Do you remember Eddie the bin man out of Coronations Street? And Onslo in that other programme with Mrs Bucket? Well that's what he looks like. I would have done a link but his profile is hidden so it won't show up.

mercury7 · 01/06/2012 16:47

yep I remember Eddie!
there's so much 'bottom of the barrel' on dating sites, I just cant seem to work up the enthusiasm to put my profile back up.
I see a fair few attractive men in the gym but I'm very reluctant to flirt with anyone there, if it went pear shaped it might interfere with my trainingBlush

ChaoticismyLife · 01/06/2012 16:49

Yes, I remember Eddie Grin

TimeForMeAndDD · 01/06/2012 17:13

There is a lot of bottom of barrel stuff in my inbox. A lot more in my block list. I felt so much cleaner when my profile was hidden.

MyLittleMiracles · 01/06/2012 18:31

I have had a great day. Very very happy. :) makes a change. I feel great.

Ithinkineedtogrowapair · 01/06/2012 19:31

Time - Grin if I had been drinking tea I wld have spat it out!!

Watch - that's great!!!

And mlm happy you had a good day.

I saw the hippy today for a ( green of course) tea, and dare I say it he was a lot more normal... Beginning to get a bit more attached.... Scary tbh.

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