This guy just doesn't listen does he? or am I being harsh?

[Mitosis]

Been chatting to a guy online for over a month. Everytime we're supposed to meet up, something comes up. We've both cancelled once each. I have now told him I'll have more free time after my exams. He asked when they were and I told him one was last monday and one is this coming monday. (But I told him this BEFORE the first exam.).

So, last sunday he text me asking if all the exams were out of the way yet I replied no, I had one the following day and one the monday after. Last wednesday he asked how things were now that the exams were behind me. I replied they were not behind me, I still had one to do the following monday.

Last night he text me saying "how are things? exams done and dusted now? :)"

wtf? is this a red flag that he's the kind of guy that just doesn't listen?

Its sweet that he's asking though. Just not listening to the answer. I wouldn't bin him for it but be on your guard in case it becomes a pattern.

Sounds like he is talking to lots of people online & finding it hard to remember the details. I wouldn't bother with him until you've done your exams, then arrange to meet. If it doesn't happen walk away rather than waste time on chatting and never meeting.

I wouldn't see it as a red flag because someone else's exams wouldn't make it onto my kitchen calendar - even if I was trying to date them!

I would think about the time scale vaguely too.

I'm trying to resist the urge to reply "nope, still got one to go, as I've said 3 times now"

To be fair though, he may as well learn that I'm a mardy arse early on

Trust your instincts!

Wouldn't you remember if someone told you this as many times as you have?

This guy is emailing shitloads of others, you are a 'reserve'.

If you were important to him, he'd remember.

If it irritates you then move on. Next!