Recently joined a dating site. Any advice appreciated.

[happyhappymummy]

I have joined a dating site. Plenty of fish.
Iv been on there a week and Oh please Im in shock. Or am I being too fussy? I dont know but Im not attracted to any of these guys. I promise you Im not shallow (or am I?)
Iv been told not to give up but Im not sure I can do it.
Anyone have some nice stories about this site?

Thanks crow aw another happy ending :) def gonna try that site.
Thanks loving. Yes I think my profile is pretty good and have some nice pics on there.
Some of these guys like to show off their body or their dog. Havnt had any rude pics but had lots of milf messages. I seem to be attracting the under 25's who think they look amazing posing in their pants. Or the over 45's who seem to be fat and bald, who cant spell (oh that was mean but its just not my type).

Oh God, happyhappy yes I get loads of young guys too. Some of them do look amazing and usually can't work out why I'm not interested in them! lol. Conversation as follows: them: hi, you look nice (i.e. for your age) can't believe you're 41. I'm great...blah blah. Me: you are too young for me. them: don't worry you're not too old. me: no, I said you're too young for me. them: age is only a number... me: I'm not interested, you're too young. them: oh please, I really really want to have sex with someone and none of the girls at university understand me (i.e. are dirty enough). I bet you are great in bed. me: yes I am but you're too young for me. see ya and good luck with your exams. them: that's not fair, don't send me any more messages.

My friend's using the Guardian's dating bit. Not sue what it's called exactly. Main reason is that she says all the others have really poor spelling and grammar!

I hate text talk but wouldn't be totally put off my the odd spelling or grammar error. Although having said that my hubby is an English graduate!

Guardian site (Soulmates) - full of articulate, but try hard, think they're clever, not terribly attractive men (unless your idea of attractive is English teacher chic circa mid-1980s)

I found Match pretty rubbish as well tbh.

Ditto Eharmony.

However I am clearly very hard to please and am resigned to being single for a very long time!

Op - I'm a mummy too and met my dream man on pof

Found my man on Encounters, which is TimesOnline dating. That is a paysite. You still get some weirdos but much less so than on the freebies

Haha loving thats sounds about right :) some do look very nice and some are quite sweet so I mail them back but some are just discusting who I ignore.
Crow.. I hate text talk too. See Im fussy!
Ha hatesponge this is the thing I know I wouldnt be hard to please usually. Its so difficult over text.
first.. Aw I know I read your post. So happy for you :) I have 3 girls 16, 6 and 4.
Butter.. Never heard of that one. There are so many arnt there? See so many single guys and I cant find one!
Theres quite a mixture of thoughts on each site. I suppose I just have to take a chance. I will see how I get on with pof for a little while and then maybe try something else.

Another vote here for OK Cupid - I met my DP there, we've been together for over a year now. For a free site, it actually seems to have a reasonable mix of interesting, witty, attractive men who by and large have a decent command of the written English language - something I didn't see much of on PoF!

The best thing about OKC is that you can do fun little quizzes that are great starting points for conversation. They also have a handy blog that gives you tips on dating and profile building, plus a 'My best picture' feature that analyses your photos and tells you which is your most attractive. It's a really fun site, well worth checking out :)

I'd agree with those who advised meeting new dates for coffee during the day first. Have fun and don't take it too seriously - online dating can be a good laugh and a great ego boost, even if it doesn't always lead to something more serious.

Oh thats sounds good Drag. Will have a nose.
Its not quite boosting my confidence at the mo but I have hope :)

Thought you might be interested in my close friend's blog about internet dating: Here is the link rubarbs.wordpress.com

Met a few of POF some nice, more not my type, one was even married!! I hasten to add was not aware he was!!

Have found a few 'still in love with ex wife' too

Don't meet for dinner or anything like that always meet for a drink that way if he is a clown you can quickly leave after a few drinks.

Don't email for more than two weeks before meeting, geuine people will want to meet you charlatans won't

Never send any one money seems simple but you would be surprised how many people get sucked in to this type of thing.

Any one getting sexual to quickly is usually after one thing
Eg wanting sexy pictures trying to draw you into sex talk early on

Meetup my oh on match.com been married for 4 years but be warned he was about the 100th guy I meet I kissed a lot of toads

Personally plenty of fish is good but I do find the fee sites do tend to be more full of people just wanting a shag

As pinklaydee says be ware there are some weirdos out there I once went in a date

We were having a really good time even had a snog half way into out coffee he shot up and said shit got to go

I was like oh no he thinks I am awful and wasn't having as good as time as I thought

He assured me he would love to see me again but had appointment with his parole officer that he couldn't be late for and he would ring me

mumof4 fab link. thankyou :)
Thanks for tips guys.
Iv been on there tonight and I just cant believe some of these guys. Some are so open. It all feels a bit too much. They want your fb or msn. Thats too personal for guys you dont know.

Some of the pics they put on there. One guy has mailed me and hes sat on top of a bin outside a betting shop. Is it me but that is just so off putting. What is attractive about this? One is stood in the shower fully clothed with his belly hanging out.

Oh no Mrbo thats terrible. Oh god this should be interesting!

Match.com worked for me too. We've been married 7 years and have a lovely daughter. I would advise quite a bit of email chat to get a feel for the prospective date's personality, and whether you are likely to connect, before arranging to meet.

People who are doing this have problems....

Glad it worked for you saffy :)
Maples glad it worked for you too :)
Its people like Putt that make me want to do it even more!!

Putthatbookdown

Obviously Putthatbookdown has potential suitors flinging themselves at his / her feet every day of the week. With such a delightful manner, it's easy to see why.

The only problem I had was simply meeting men. I spent most of my time either at yoga or attending various craft groups - neither really frequented by men, as a rule. I didn't want to meet someone in a club or pub, as that's not my scene, so why would I want to meet someone who enjoys clubbing etc? It's a perfect way to meet people your path would never normally cross with.

I dont think paid sites are necessarily better than free ones.
I think the trick is to get a feel for internet dating, learn to spot warning signs etc.
Partly that comes from trial & error.

We are the 'first generation' of internet daters, as time goes on the practice of finding a partner online will be smoother as it becomes more and more embedded in the culture.
Thats one of my theories anyway :o

Sorry pink missed your post. Yep there are lots of those on there. More open to tell you they are married too!
Ha yes donkey Im sure this is the case. I dont like the idea of meeting someone in pubs as its usually after a few and doesnt seem to lead anywhere. So hard to cross that path though any where else.
Yes mercury I agree its hit and miss I think. Lots of misses so far. Its only been a week though I guess.