MIL drunk in charge of DSD

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I am worried about DSD.

She spends anything from 2 - 5 nights a week with MIL. This is a problem (in my eyes) because MIL drinks every night, she waits until the DGC are in bed, gets drunk, sleeps it off and gets up for work in the morning.

Dp and his Ex don't see it as a problem as DSD is in bed while MIL is drinking and MIL gets up for work each day and keeps a clean house and functions normally throughout the day.

Does anybody know where social services would stand on this if they were ever to find out?

DP lives with me and my own DC and his EX lives with her mum. His EX has full custody of DSD and both parents have parental responsibility.

If SS were to find out then they would likely want DSD's parents to show that they were willing to protect DSD from the clear risk that her drunken grandmother represents. Only if her parents were to fail to do that would there be any risk of care proceedings.

The nursery might already have noticed that MiL turns up stinking of booze. My DC's school noticed that about my ex.

Think about it like this. You hire a babysitter for the evening. When you come back the babysitter is unmistakably wankered. (15 units of alcohol would leave my well-practised, hard-drinking ex stumbling drunk and unable to properly follow a conversation).

Would you hire that babysitter again?

Another question: how old is MiL? I'm heard a surprising number of anecdotes about alcoholics that they can often keep it together until they're in their forties. At that point the years of drinking starts to catch up with them as their bodies get less and less able to deal with the booze. That's when it all starts to fall apart.