Counsellor/therapist recommendation

[Hulabandula]

Can anyone recommend a therapist in the London area for individual or couples therapy who is specialised or experienced in infidelity?

Thank you

You could contact the Tavistock Centre- one of the best places and I am sure they are all good. Dr Temple is recommended if he still sees people- he is/ was the director.

I don't think you should choose on the basis of them being experienced with infidelity- all counsellors are trained to deal with anything and they won't take sides or make judgements. So if you are wanting one to say one partner was right and the other wrong, you will be disappointed- they remain neutral.

Tavistock is very good, as is WPF (Westminster Pastoral Foundation). I agree with ameliagrey about specialisation: if the therapist is good, that becomes irrelevant.

If you're put off by WPF's rather churchy name, you don't need to be; it is an established, non-religious therapy centre.

It's very good practice to ask a therapist if they've got experience in dealing with the thing you want to discuss the most and so I'd recommend it thoroughly. No good therapist would mind in the least being asked about their experience and credentials. There are lots of myths about infidelity and some therapists are hopelessly old-fashioned in their views. The Tavistock is very expensive and the therapists are generally from the pyscho-analytical modality which might not suit if you've never had therapy before.

Don't discount local, independent practitioners because there are some excellent therapists who aren't tied to a particular organisation, tend to have smaller waiting lists and less bureaucracy - and offer better value for money than a lot of the 'names'.

I'd also recommend trying one or two out first to see if you think it will work between you.

Why wouldn't you want to chose a counsellor on the basis of his/her experience with and attitude towards infideility situations? From what I have been advised, lots of therapists around are very old-fashioned and assume the affair was a result of problems within the marriage, when that is often a myth - read Shirley Glass for example - and more about the betraying partners agenda. Maybe this is the OP's concern?