Need some reassurance?

[JazleEd]

ive questioned myself as to weather im happy anymore, with my partner. is this normal?

It's pretty normal. Life and relationships tend to rumble along without much thought most of the time but occasionally something makes us sit up and ask if we're heading in the right direction. Has something triggered the question?

This is the first time ive ever thought about it, well when i was preg i was extreamly hormonal and emotional, after i gave birth i was still emotional, all ended now, And ive also changed my pill, but now my partner is down in the dumps cos he feel as though he cant provide for us, no money, lost his job and cant find a new one, he was there for me when i was at my bad state, understanding it was only hormones, now we've both gotten down about the bickering and silly arguements, theres tension, its not as bad as it used to be but its still there, i wanna stick by his side, i do love him an care for him, so that feeling scared me. hoping that once he has a job things would settle again.

There's a phrase 'when money goes out of the door, love flies out of the window'. We all go through ups and downs and, if a relationship is strong and everyone's pulling in the same direction, you can weather the storm. If you're not that sold on someone, however, it doesn't take much of a knock to be asking yourself 'is he worth it?'

Thinking through all the good things,spesh from the beginning of the relatipnship, yes he is worth it, theres quite a few things to work on tho. Like his main concern in the money job house and all that. And my main concern is keeping us together, he doesnt think anything is wrong between me and him, but in my mind a few tweeks could be sorted, such as temper ( no violence! Just snap at each other) showing a bit of effection, like a hug and a kiss, and listening to each other more. Ive sorted most of myself out, but im not completely normal yet. I know to begin with it was mostly my fault, but now its both. I have also been reading ' men are from mars and women are from venus' that helps alot to.

Plus we live with his parents. So me, him, baby, his mum, his dad, his brother and his brothers girlfriend. So say if i need to talk to someone cos im quite down, and needing advice on what to do in that situation, i cant go to anyone cos they'll take his side. And then if i ever do leave, ive got no where to go.

All you need is a bereavement and you'll have hit the jackpot on the stress-ometer.. :) Living with someone else's relatives, no job, new baby, money worries, skewed hormones ... if you're not throwing plates at each other, you're doing pretty well. I wouldn't take too much notice of Mars and Venus tbh... you're just two people trying to make the best of a bad hand.

My suggestion would be to take advantage of living with all those babysitters and take yourselves off to do something together as a couple without the baby. A stroll in the park, a chance to chat and connect over a cup of tea in a cafe or watch a movie, can be all it takes to de-stress a little and realise you're still on the same side. If he's not showing much affection (some people get inhibited in front of family) take the initiative with the cuddles. If you need to offload, talk to your friends rather than his family.

Thankyou. Thats taken a load off my cheast. I feel much better.