Not sure where to post this but here goes.....
A bit of background....am very happily married to dh, we have been together 4 years and married for 3. Second time round for both of us. We live with my two dcs aged 9 and 10. DS plays rugby and as dh works shifts I always take him to training and matches. Over past 2.5 years have made some good friends at the club, lovely group of parents, coaches etc. DH comes to watch matches when he can and we both went with ds on a recent tour which was great fun. Ok so,
last Friday morning I arrived back from taking dcs to school, fished out my phone to put on side in kitchen as I always do. I noticed there was a text message...I opened it and nearly fell through the floor, it read, "Hi xxx this is xxxx who lives with xxxx (one of ds's rugby coaches) I will be dropping off all his things when I finished work as he tells me you are now together" I was shocked, totally confused. Rang my friend who advised I should wake up dh and show him text. I did this and we both spent the morning scratching our heads trying to make sense of it. He tried ringing the coach - went straight to answerphone so he left message for him to ring him. I text his partner back and said don't know what hell is going on, am happily married, shocked and speechless. DH also sent text to coaches' partner saying there must be some terrible mistake what the hell is going on.
Anyway, coaches' partner rang back and spoke to dh, she was quite calm, not at all aggressive and told dh that coach had got drunk a couple weeks ago and then declared that he wanted her to leave and that he was in love with me!!! We are both totally shocked as this person, although has always been friends with both of us, have never come on to me, been remotely suggestive, however we do exchange texts regarding rugby and we got on well. I honestly thought he liked me, perhaps thought I was quite funny as I have a good sense of humour but that was it.
DH and I tried to make contact with him and he did text back to dh (via my phone) saying that they have been going through a very bad patch and because he texts and speaks to me about rugby he doesn't know what the hell she thinks, all he can do is say sorry and that he will sort this out. 2 days later is presentation day for rugby - we both go with ds. He is there, can hardly look at us, but did say to me when he asked me to sign a card, I owe you both a massive apology, then that was it. He won't answer our calls and neither got an apology or explanation.
This has left dh and I feeling confused and pissed off. DH has been incredibly understanding but I would be absolutely gutted if it had been the other way round. We are more solid than ever but both feel we need to clear the air with this person. I can't get my head around this, I don't know what to feel, flattered, upset, pissed off, confused....4 days on and I just keep thinking about it and can't function normally.
Sorry this is so long but I need some impartial thoughts/advice, anything really.