Tell me this is nuts!!

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Its been almost 2 years since I had one evening with a guy Id known 2 weeks but had fancied for about a year.
He lives with his gf and I had just separated from my husband.
This guy works in our community and is stupidly good looking.
I cant move on from him or stop thinking about him its ridiculous.
Why????
Iv been on other dates since but just cant get him out of my mind. He is a cheat and clearly doesnt want me. I want to get mad as he took advantage of the fact I was vulnerable.
Im not crazy I promise. I just want to stop thinking about this man that I have completely no contact with any more. Just see him time to time out in his car.
Please tell me Im a obssessed crazy lady that needs to get a life.

You are an obsessed crazy lady that needs to get a life

There you are now cured, no more fixating on a knob jockey that doesn't realise you exist.
Have these and then crack on with your life.

Oh.... what would life be without a few passionate crushes or a bit of unrequited, inappropriate love to keep it interesting? You're a long time dead. You'll get over him eventually - probably when someone else comes along. Enjoy the crush!

There has to be a reason why you are fixating on someone who is unavailable, has rejected you, and also a cheat. I think you would do well to look into yourself and find out why that is.

For example:
Do you think you deserve to be treated poorly?
Is fixating on Mr Unavailable enabling you to avoid the really scary prospect of attempting a real relationship where you open yourself to hurt?

Distructive impulses usually have a warped belief at their core. Find out what yours is, and you'll be able to let go of your obsession. Because I don't think it's his qualities that have you obsessing, but rather whatever issues it is that you are carrying around (and deserve to get to the bottom of).

Good luck!

Thanks for the messages.
I so wish I could move on.
Its nice to have a crush but this is too much.
I know its not him as a person as I hardly knew him. I think it was someone paying me attention who is a big part of the community and known. It was even the wrong kind of attention. I dont know whats wrong with me. Maybe it will go away if someone else came along. I just never ever feel myself attracted to someone like I was him.
Thats interesting actually cos I question why are you doing this to yourself and I think its cos he rejected me and how he did it.
Maybe this is because he was the 1st guy since my husband left! I dont know but I want it to go away.
Thanks all!

The best way to get over one man is to get under another one...

or so they say!

It'll go away eventually. It's just the perils of 'dating'. New loves are so exciting and emotions are so high that it's quite addictive! If you were enjoying the attention but got rejected after a short time there's also the problem of unfinished business. If you keep bumping into the awkward ex into the bargain, it's more difficult to let go. Keep busy and try to stay away from his haunts. Go out with someone just so you can dump them. :) You'll be fine.

Thanks for messages.
I cant seem to find another!
I hope so I really do its awful feeling this way. I dont see him alot but hes always out and about with his work and lives around the corner.
Im trying I am. I get mad with myself as its just an attraction.
Thankyou :)