Break up or make up?

[Sposh]

Urggghhhhh.

Together 19yrs, married 15. Two kids, 15 and almost 13, girls.

Things haven't been right for a long time. We have after a long standoff, had 'the talk' tonight. We both got a few things off our chests, like the fact that house is mine (he agrees) and that he isn't innocent in all this (hurrah!).

So why do I now feel more bonded to him than I have in years? Is this hysterical bonding?

Possibly because you actually talked frankly and subsequently feel more connected and involved. His admission of some culpability after what looks like a long time of stalemate and denial from him is probably a great relief.

Other than that - without the terms, what he/you said in terms of moving forward type relevant details I'm not really the best to offer more of an opinion. It wouldn't be based on much. Not that I'm overly helpful anyway.

Is trying to rebuild the relationship something that would be appropriate? Do you both want to or do you actually feel there is too little left to work with? It depends on lots of variables.

If there's no ow or om involved, it's unlikey to be hysterical bonding and more likely to be due to the fact that after a standoff of some duration, you've been able to establish some common ground.

Let's hope it lasts