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My Teenage DS and Facebook arghhh

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Losingitall · 14/05/2012 19:28

Clicked into FB tonight for 1st time in ages. Was looking at a couple of other sites I'd logged into, and could see a FB chat thing flashing (I don't use it). Realised then my DS had left his FB logged in and a girl had messaged him. (For those of you that don't use FB it's a bit like MSN)

She was basically having a go at him, as he's going out with her friend, she said "You're supposed to be my best friend, I've loved you for 7 months, you not feeling the same is making me really depressed".

After seeing this I logged out, so didn't see the rest of the conversation.

I know this girl, he has a lot of "girl friends", and she's one of a group of about 20 people he hangs about with. He spoke to me about her 6 months ago saying he felt bad because she liked him, and he liked another girl in their group. He spoke to 1st girl explained he liked her as a friend, didn't want to lose her friendship but wanted to ask the other girl out. That "relationship" lasted a couple of months. He's now "seeing" another girl in the group.

I'm a bit worried about that message she sent him tonight, I'm worried about her, and I'm worried about how he feels about it - he's quite sensitive about her, and feels awful he doesn't like her. Do I pretend I don't know anything about it - after all these relationships as a youngster are about figuring out things, or do I tell him I saw it?

He's quite open about his FB, and knows a condition of him having it is that I can have access at any time, but I wouldn't deliberately snoop.

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toptramp · 14/05/2012 19:31

Hmmmm I wouldn't get involved op if I were you. He would see it as snooping. What she said sounds like typical teengae love stuff. They'll work it out.

doormat · 14/05/2012 19:32

losing explain to him that when you thought you had logged on and realsied it wasnt and inadvertently opened up the chat and seen it....

be honest

i have had this with my own son and he has come to me and asked for my advice about matters like this...which i am sure he will do with you....he may do a kevin and perry impersonation firstGrin but if it is troubling him he will let you know xxx

ps bless him and she sounds like a right bunny boiler

Moomenny · 14/05/2012 19:32

How old are they?

toptramp · 14/05/2012 19:33

And also don't feel bad for the girls. It's hard but we all have to go through the unrequited love thing. I think the only thing is mabe he's leading her on or not iyo?

usualsuspect · 14/05/2012 19:36

How old are they?

I wouldn't get involved unless he asks you for advice.

Losingitall · 14/05/2012 19:37
  1. God bless em. They're all great kids too.
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usualsuspect · 14/05/2012 19:37

He will see the message for himself when he logs back in anyway.

Losingitall · 14/05/2012 19:38

I don't think he's leading her on, but obv I'm not there to see his behaviour. He did go out of the way to try and pacify her when it first started, and she was going out with one of his friends for a while.

I wouldn't be that age again for a big gold pig!

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bigTillyMint · 14/05/2012 19:40

It sounds par for the course - just seenon FB that DD is "in a relationship" She is not 13 yet FFS!

dondon33 · 14/05/2012 21:13

I would tell him you seen it, you weren't snooping it came on automatic. Tell him you didn't read it all - which is the truth. Yeah, he may well be pissed off but he'll get over it.
Oh my idea of hell bigtilly :@ I NEVER wanted the female kind, glad I got all boys mostly, apart from the disgusting stuff :)

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