Anyone else found they have zero libido and cannot orgasm while breastfeeding?

[FidoAndHisBone]

Ds3 is 18 months and I have had one orgasm since he was born, and a complete disinterest in sex. I stopped BFing 2 weeks ago and my libido is back! I was starting to get quite worried, I thought I may have nerve damage from the birth... Has anyone else experienced this?

Differing degrees with different children, but I think it is very common. they never tell you about this in classes and I think a lot of people are worried and relationships are harmed. my friend is a health educator for pregnant couples. I asked her about this and she said that they didn't want to put people off breast feeding or they would lose their baby-friendly status!

Yes me too, I didn't have the same problem with my first two, or perhaps I am just a bit more in tune with my body now I'm old older. I googled 'difficulty reaching orgasm while breastfeeding' and it came back with results for women who had orgasms every time they breastfed!

Yes I found the same thing, with both mine. Whilst I was BFing I just didn't feel sexual at all. It took quite a long time to come back after DS2 and I worried there was something wrong with me. Anyway, it did come back much to my relief.

So yours is back that's great!

I found it just as easy to orgasm after I had DS and bfing didn't seem to impact my ability to orgasm.

However, I found I was drier during the 11 months I bf, so needed to use lube. Also, I hated the idea of DH touching my breasts and it took about 6 months after I weaned DS before I could bear DH touching my chest.

I was pretty much asexual while breastfeeding.
My breasts were also off limits.
I think it's normal. Luckily have a very understanding DH.

Yes. Until my periods started when DD was 17 months I had to sex drive at all and I was very dry.

I had the same with DS's 2 and 3 and the huge milk filled mounds that I lovingly remembered as my breasts were completely off limits for the whole time I was feeding.
Yeah, you are definitely not warned about this before :(

Me too. The things no-one tells you.

Same here, DS is 8 months and atm I couldn't care less if I never had sex again!

DH not very supportive if we do have it, I've tried explaining why boobs are off limits and lube is required but he gets the hump and ignores me and carries on regardless which makes it another fucking chore and me want it even less.

I breastfeed to 3 years, libido came back properly with ovulation so at about 14 months. It does suppress libido in many women.

Yes, my boobs were definitely off limits, but I breastfed until almost 3 with two of mine and did find that my drive came back after 18 months (along with my periods), I actually had less feeling down there it seemed to me.
Boobs remained off limits until a good while after stopping completely though.