He's not perfect but...

[Homebird8]

Just wanted to hear what all our non-perfect other-halves do to make life together wonderful. There's so much sadness in the world and it's easy to concentrate on the niggles so let's have some fun and dwell on the happy times, and the inspirational times, and the downright silly times!

He is prepared to watch crap reality TV (X factor, the Voice) and discuss who's the best with me on a Saturday night, obviously whilst drinking a glass of wine to numb the pain

Care to share then Purple? This is the thread to be on if you do

He brings random gifts- chocolate bar,bottle of wine etc just because it's Wednesday.
He dances with me or the kids when a good song comes on the radio.
He loves playing with the DDs and never gets embarrassed if DD1 wants him to do something silly in public.
He tells the most awful jokes because it makes me groan and then smile.
He makes my life easier in hundreds of little ways, like giving me a lie-in or making my sandwiches.

winegoggles I've read anyfucker saying positive things about her partner on previous threads. She's amazingly supportive to women who are having real problems in their relationships.

Let's not spoil this lovely thread by attacking anyone else!

my DH will let me put my cold nose in the space between his eye and nose at night as I cant sleep with a cold nose x he is also and amazing dad x

this post reminds me of a hilarious simon mayo show on radio 2 the other week - everyone was ringing up about their wonderful husbands/boyfriends/fiance's so they asked people to call in about their distinctly average other halves - very amusing

He goes out to walk the dog at the crack of dawn on winter mornings while I lie in bed get the DDs ready for the day and when he gets back, he always scrapes the ice off my car. I've never ever asked him to, I don't see why he should, but he does it anyway.

In the words of Wordsworth, it is:

'That best portion of a good man's life,
His little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love'.

It's good to remember them sometimes. What a lovely thread

WineGoggles it's not about men in general, it's about abusive men, bad men, men who destroy self esteem, men who are bad role models to their DC.

They are vocal and they are right to be. They are not venting about their own situations, if you read the posts it's clear their responses are specific to the issues the OP has posted, as above.

Everyone deserves to be treated with respect

nothing less will do

Sometimes it takes the more vocal to remind us of this, as time goes on a relationship with bad man can lower our sense of worth to the extent where some women to really have to be told very clearly they do not have to put up with this. I've been there more than once and I wish the wise women of MN had been around then, it would have saved me a lot of heartache that therapy never did.

OovoofWelcome I wasn't "attacking" anyone, it was just an observation based on the fact I hadn't read the positive comments you have so it was based on all the others I have. There have been other threads like this and some people were noticeable by their absence and I wondered why, because it's lovely to remind ourselves how nice our partners are, right? Share the love and all that eh. I realise the ladies on here are a very valuable support for those in need and I applaud them.

To clarify it is MNers who are vocal, not venting. OP is the OP on other relationship threads, not this one.

Emmalina where is that Wordsworth quote from? I'd liker to keep that.

It sums up my DH.

he's not one for romantic acts or gestures.

But, his constant support in small ways, doing jobs so that I don't have t,o and always ensuring I can follow whatever ambition/madcap idea I'm currently focused on (and I always have something) by quietly holding the fort with all those nameless tasks.

Sometimes I wish he was more obviously romantic, but then I make myself stop and think about all the ways he is acting out his love, and know which I would prefer.

(early morning walking the dog, because I love to sleep so much being one act of love here as well. I'd rather this than a romantic note. Of course botyh wopulod be nice but I'm very greedy).)

dp does the pillow plumping thing too if he gets into bed first

i;'m not sure why AF needs to justify her relationship to you WG. fwiw i have heard her say very positive things about her dh, and I'm afraid that your comments do come across as attacking

Oh dear, well it's very easy for things to be misconstrued in type isn't it, so I best leave it there. FWIW I was not "attacking" anyone, it was just an observation that I found interesting, that's all.

DaDer It's from the poem Tintern Abbey

A lovely thread! I really had no idea that men like some of your existed out of fiction. They all sound very supportive

He's not perfect (though he would insist he is ) but...

He treats me better than anyone ever has supports me, drives hundreds of miles to see me, takes me out, helps with housework, cooks, writes me lovely emails, helps with my children. He makes me laugh and is heaven to cuddle up to. He treats me with respect and sends me my favourite flowers. He surpasses any other man I have known easily. He takes care of himself and smells wonderful. He's as close to perfect as I can imagine.

Sherbert- lol, sadly the reason I can hand on heart say I think my DH is perfect wonderful is because I've had a spectrum from complete shitstain to distinctly average!
Average man could have been my 'One' there was nothing bad about him and we got on and it was all very comfortable but he just wasn't anything special, didn't have it in him. I'm sure lots of people actually are average & more than happy.

I'm not an amazing person but know I had a few reasons to be a catch and they were wasted on Mr Average.
Anyway one man's rubbish is another man's treasure so they probably have partners that would write here about their wonderous DHs!

Some of the things I could write would seem weird though as they are my particular foibles (he always brings me the right spoon etc) so not everything is translatable on a forum. I am totally sure AF has as much to write as any but is equally happy to be private - maybe she feels she has nothing to prove? After all the dog that doesn't bark is the one with the worst bite and all that.

Every weekend morning he gets up first, gets our toddler up, brings me a cup of coffee, giggles at me when I wake up properly an hour later to find that the coffee's cold, and makes me a fresh cup.

He seems to think all my most annoying habits are cute.

He makes amazing macaroni cheese.

He puts up with my need to watch the same DVDs over and over again.

He supports my hobbies and insists that they're a worthwhile use of household income even though it's his earnings that support us and we are by no means rolling in it. He genuinely thinks it's important for me to stretch my brain and keep a sense of identity outside being a SAHM.

He thinks I'm beautiful and says so often. And he says he loves me about a dozen times a day.

He does almost all the washing up and always takes the rubbish out.

He buys clothes as a surprise...and gets help from the shop assistants to do it!

He is very hands on with the kids and when he's been away with work and is therefore exhausted, he comes home and takes them out so that I can have a break

He gets on with my friends

He has been very understanding about certain issues I have with sex. I read a lot about people saying that no sex in a relationship is a dealbreaker. I'm glad he loves me deeply enough to help me work through problems rather than just upping and leaving.

He warms my side of the bed up before I get in cos he knows I'm always cold
He makes the best coffee
He believes in me
He tells me he loves me every day
His cuddles make me go all warm and fuzzy
He gives me butterflies when we kiss
No he's not perfect, but he's perfect for me :)

He brings me toast and coffee in bed at the weekends..and my laptop:)

He still kisses everyone goodnight before bed eventho the kids are older teens even our oldest son who is 19.. He is so unselfconscious about loving the children ..and they love that too. I love that about him... They know he would donanything for them.

He still tells me I am gorgeous ( I am not)

He does all the ironing !

He constantly thinks of what little things he can do to make me happy.

He cooks & cleans, and does both well!

He's an amazing role model for my boys.

He thinks I'm the sexiest woman ever

He loves me for who I am.

Just wanted to add that I had been through hell, with an abusive ex, horrendous break up, then nearly dying 'cause of an ED. My dp took all this emotional baggage on board, and helps me carry the load. I fought the battles myself, and came out the other side before I met him, but he helps me see why I'm worth fighting for.

In short, he's amazing (if not perfect)

And I love the Tintern Abbey quote

He's got a cold and is cuddled up on the sofa with a 'little poorly voice', but he still got up to sort out DS1 when application of Olbas Oil to a child sized pillow was needed. (I would have done it quite happily but got beaten to it!)

He's unfailingly lovely about people and the most compassionate man Ive ever met. Where other people may harshly judge some-body he'll take a balanced view, quite often different to my fiery gut reaction.

He's the person I hope I can be one-day.

My hubby gets up with dd in the night, and every monday I get to put my feet up whilst he cooks me dinner. I am a SAHM and he works long hours do this is greatly appreciated.