XH remarrying tomorrow..

[IslaMann]

.. not sure how Im feeling about it. Thats it really. Our DS(15) has been a bit "out of sorts" for the last few weeks, although this could also because he is doing his GCSE modules at the moment. He gets on well with his stb step-mum, and is happy his dad is happy - as I am. I ended the marriage, and now feel vindicated as his dad has moved on and is happy again. I just feel... oh, I dont know... sad? relieved? jealous? Im engaged, and getting married next April to the most amazing man, so why am I feeling so mixed up?

It's the end of an era which has bittersweet memories for you. If it's any consolation, your ex may well feel the same next April.

Your future is bright with promise and you're best advised not to spoil the present by dwelling on the past.

OP - It is really weird, isn't it? I no longer cared for my XH but was devastated and very, very angry when I knew that he was re-marrying! Suppose, in my case, that he had told the poor woman so many lies and I knew, deep down, that he was using her for her money. They seem to get on well - don't have anything to do with them - but very much resent the fact that they are having a good life while my XH fleeced me right, left and centre and my children and I lost our home (after having a mortgage for 26 years). Perhaps you're grieving for the fact that your marriage is now finally over? Am sure that wiser people will be along soon to help you make sense of your feelings. Best wishes!

Dont have experience of this, but FWIW, I have noticed in life, that on the odd occasions when I have been feeling two separate emotions on the same day,it is confusing.I have been happy about something and sad about something else and end up not knowing what to think.I dont think humans cope well with multiple emotions at the same time, so it is very understandable that you are feeling mixed up at this time in your life.The MN expression, it will pass may apply here.
Your DS has his modules coming up now.So perhaps when the weekend is over, your immediate focus then needs to be on your DS.
And good luck for his exams.

OP I have no experience of this -yet - as I am waiting for my divorce but reading your post it strikes me that you must be a good person who once had a happy future with your ex and it is bound to be bittersweet to know that he is moving on in a very symbolic way as you will be doing too

It is something to be proud of that you dont feel complete indifference.

Good luck with all your future plans x

Despite being happily married to Mr Palooza, I was still a bit weirded out when XP got married last year... even though he had 2 kids by then.

I think I would have been even more / / if XP and I had been married and/ or had kids together. We were together for 8 years and I thought he was the person I would spend the rest of my life with.

It took me a while to get over the fact that another woman was living the life that I had worked so hard for... IYSWIM?

Mr Palooza and I are pretty skint most of the time whereas XP's wife doesn't have to work and has two gorgeous kids and they drive a flashy BMW. I think I felt irrationally jealous and sad.

And then I remember his moods, his teeny tiny penis and his cheating scumbag ways...

Well recalled Lulu!

Thanks everyone. Good to know my emotions are normal. Today is a new day and life shall be good!

It's odd how those with teeny tiny penises can turn out to be the biggest dicks

Maybe having one is the reason why they're a pathetic prick?