Why am I going through this again?

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Have been seeing someone casually for a few months,out of the blue contact just dramatically decreases on his part, so where we would email or text every few days etc it just stops and I wouldn't hear from him for weeks.
I asked what has happened and I get the 'busy at work' so when I put it to him that maybe we should cool things he says no.
I know in my heart he has had a change of mind and all I can think is he has started seeing someone else,what hurts more than anything is that the last guy I was seeing did exactly the same thing but kept stringing me along for years-that's a whole other thread though!
This man knew how much ex hurt me by his behaviour but it feels like a fucking carbon copy of what happened before.
Just needed to get this out as it's hurting so much but he clearly doesn't give a shit,why can't he just be honest?
I'm not contacting him again,just have that same feeling of 'why again?'

I am so sorry you are going through this. It is awful to feel that someone doesn't respect you enough to be level with you.

Some people are just rubbish at being honest and decent to other human beings.

I doubt very much it is you, you just met 2 crap men (and how would you have known? unfortuately they don't come with an MOT).

I suppose you need to be a bit more careful next time. take care of yourself.

Thanks greygirl-that's exactly how I feel,it's just a complete lack of respect.I think what is just sending me bonkers is the lead up to this.
We went out with friends and stayed at their house,we had a great evening,I feel very comfortable with him and relaxed in his company-and my friend said we look very relaxed and happy when we are together.
We met for lunch about a week later and had a lovely afternoon,and he told me that he thought things were good between us,and that I shouldnt worry about anything.I left feeling on top of the world.
After that everything changed,work was blamed and I know it was partially true but funnily enough I could always make time to see him.
Then the old make plans and then cancel at last minute started-I just felt like here we go again.
I tried to be careful with him as I didn't want to get hurt like before but he has left me with so many questions I know I will never get answered!
Funny thing is that actually not seeing him isn't the most hurtful thing,I certainly won't be wasting time trying to get him back,it's the shitty behaviour that is the worst-if that males sense