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Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Is it possible to hide an entire topic? If so how?

29 replies

boredandrestless · 10/05/2012 12:08

There are some fab posters in this section who repeatedly help posters in terrible relationships, and support them in their situation. I have been supported in this way myself and because of this I find I am drawn to threads that are similar to what I went through.

Unfortunately I am not as patient or understanding as some posters, and reading of people staying in abusive relationships, which their dcs are also living with, is too much for me too read. I have been the kid as well as the adult living in an abusive household.

I have hidden a couple of threads this week that I had initially posted on, as I don't want to be harsh and unsupportive now I have seen they are still muddling along putting their dcs as well as themselves at risk.

I have been that woman and know how hard it is but the thing is I have been that kid too and find it all too emotional and frustrating so I need to step away I think.

The posters who are endlessly patient and full of support and advice on the relationships boards- thank you. You have been there for me in the past and what you do is wonderful. I had hoped I could do the same but I just can't, I'm not patient enough!

So..... anyone know if I can hide a full topic??

OP posts:
AnyFucker · 11/05/2012 20:07

Nic ?

I could do with a twenty actually, I have a curry about to be delivered Wink

NicNocJnr · 11/05/2012 21:20

Because that wasn't the reason? Quite possibly. Your 're-phrase' is not a re-phrase it is seemingly trying to make you sound less offensive. Then yu follow it up.

You can see how things have developed and what has been discussed. This was about what is going on for OP as a result of those threads, thoughts and situations. It's not about 'them' it is about her.

Being angry is often a concenquence of being repeatedly fucked over. Being frustrated and feeling powerless to stop things. In any case is it not humane to be concerned about the welfare of the most vulnerable members of a home?

There are other factors at play in this post possibly but she has been honest it's you twisting/leading OP to admit your rather shallow and uncompassionate take on it. For what reason?

It is frustrating and quite frankly she could quite freely start a thread titled - why are they such fucking idiots. She has not. She is coming from a very particular place with all the baggage that entails this is not about them primarily, even though it is a legitimate feeling, it is not the same as a similar sentiment coming from someone with no experience who really does think why are they so stupid, I'd never be in that position.
I don't get why you are deliberately not acknowledging the longer view/bigger picture. Whatever Biscuit

AF - Ah, well could I maybe provide advice on a nice cake, go head to head with you on DV advice for double or nothing (shit, please don't say yes!!) or relay a nice anecdote about my cats? Otherwise you can have an extra, oooh 7.60 in change? Could I maybe ring the takeaway and advise them?

AnyFucker · 11/05/2012 21:55

hehe, Nic

£7.60 would get me a nice tikka masala and DH can go whistle

sounds ok to me...

NicNocJnr · 11/05/2012 22:38

WOOT!! Poor DH buuut you snooze you lose bub!

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