I have posted before about rocky relationship. I am looking for some perspective on this situation, pleadse..
I can't claim any moral high ground.
two days ago, after argument, partner asks me to phone his mother regarding the anguish I caused them when I left him (for 2 weeks) 2 1/2 years ago. I said I would do it the next day, it was late. He then phones them, whilst drunk, and telss his mother to speak to me. we agree to speak the next day. I did worry about it and prepared to defend myself. When we speak she says she feels he behaved like a bully and was worried he was drunk. I burst and tell her what he drinks usually, and we talk about his behaviour and what has happened (from my point of view). I try to take care not to make him sound very bad, as he has many lovely qualities, and my behaviour through the years have not been impeachable.
We have children.
Her words, not mine: he has been cruel, verbally abusive, physically abusive and he has to stop drinking.
partner now very angry, says I always take the role as martyr and victim. says mother is hypocrite. will not discuss amicable separation.
any advice for way forward? financial situation dire.
It will be too long to post background, so possibility of drip feed here.