anyone with experience of occupation orders?

[bejeezus]

Have been seperated from stbxh since Feb 2011, divorce un progress. He has agreed ti be the one to leave family home but won't actually go!

He has been emotionally and financially abusive, and is an alcoholic. He does no household chores at all and almost no childcare (nothing regular, an hour or 2 every 3 weeks or si if I have an appointment or something)

We have 2 dds, 7yo and 18mo. Baby not a good sleeper and I work 3 days a week.

Stbxh has been drinking out of the house for the last 5 days, returning each morning at 2am-6am to go to bed. Waking me up in the process with crashing and banging about and then keeping me awake with drunken snoring. He doesn't lick front door or close stair gate at top if stairs so I have to get up to di that. And get up again to check stair gate if he goes to the toilet. He had been sleeping in his clothes and hadn't changed for 5 days, he smells of alcohol and faeces

One of the mornings I woke up to find he had shit all over the toilet seat and bathroom floor. Now he is asleep on the stairs coveted in vomit. He has vomited all over the hallway and up the walls, the rug is probably ruined. He has knocked over my bike and damaged it. I use my bike to transport kids to school and nursery and to vomited to work

I feel at my wits end. I am derranged with tiredness, constantly dizzy and nauseous. I wish he would die in his sleep

I have a solicitor who is dealing with the divorce. But she seems to downplay all this stuff. She seems only interested in organising finances . On these grounds do you think I would get an occupation order to get him out of the house? I don't want the kids to see this, particularly dd1

Sorry for epic post

[bejeezus]

thank you

I was expecting to feel relief. But I dont. I cant stop crying and thinking about when it was good

[midwife99]

Of course you'll be crying for a few days - it's finally real. Thinking of you - it will get better.

[Kent38]

Hello the lady solicitor could I message u with s few questions possibly please

[Esthy]

Hi everyone
Issue on occupation order. Any advice will be appreciated. I have a non molestation order against my ex. Divorce is in progress. He has been deliberately doing things to create distress in the family home. We have got children under 16. The house is solely in his name and another occupied by tenants. He knocks down walls to deliberately create dust in order to frustrate me out, damages my kitchen cupboards which I bought and paid for its installation and when I call police they said because the house belongs him there is nothing they can do. The knocked down walls has been like that for months. Wants to start shipping and uses the house for storage dumps things everywher and leaves little or no space for the family. I have no room and sleep in a couch in the small space left in the living room. Children has no where to play as all spaces has been taken including the garden. Has no respect or regard for the family. You clean up and he deliberately messes it up.

My legal aid lawyer is only interested in finances and has never advised me on what to do even when I have expressed my concern she tells me my legal aid does not cover the occupation order. It's so frustrating having to live this way with the children. Any advice will help